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Hi all,
Just a quick update for you regarding my child seeing her father for a decent amount of time.
I had my MIAM yesterday, the lady seemed very good and generally seemed interested in helping us to agree on a plan (I'm sure they normally do anyway it's within their interests as well as everyone else) I have instructed that they proceed to contact my ex via their normal route which is a letter that should arrive tomorrow and a follow up phone call in 10 days should she not reply to the letter. Can I ask that this is pushed forward?
My mediator did offer me a c100 to get it stamped there and then if I wished but something inside told me to give this a shot, it's the last hope before court and if I'm being messed about at any point then I will ask for the stamp.
After asking my ex for dates and times before the end of the weekend and being ignored I finally had a reply this morning saying that I will get 4 hours on Sunday and that she can't give me a evening time because a relative is being moved from ophapaedics and she would like to take the kids to see them, she doesn't know when so she will let me know when she knows.
All the best,
TheDaddy
Hi
Thanks for the update. It sounds like a good plan,
Personally, I would allow a couple of days for the letter to arrive and be read, and responded to, before then phoning the mediator to check if a response has been recieved (she will eventually get the message, and telephone your ex herself).
Hi,
No worries, thanks for all the replies and guidance. I shall call on Thursday and see if a response has been given.
TheDaddy
Good job TheDaddy.
Yeah I would hold fire with MIAM as she looks like she wants to work something out.
Roughly how long has it been since you last seen your child?
Try to keep it amicable as possible do not bombard her with messages/call either as it can work against you.
If all that fails back to MIAM route you go.
AdamsDad I think you may have lost what I have said a little. She is yet to respond to the Mediator to say she wants to go to mediation. I see my child once or twice a week for 4 to 6 hours of which 30 minutes is spent on travel. I send about 2 to 3 messages a day of which are ignored but they are a message to send my love and hugs to the little one. I have remained calm through all messages no matter what she has thrown at me. I would think she got the letter from the mediator today or it will be tomorrow. I don't know if she opens her post strait away though.
All the best,
TheDaddy
Thanks for the update TD.
Unfortunately the Mediator will have to follow the accepted guidelines and give your ex a certain length of time to respond. Usually, after a couple of weeks, if no progress has been made the mediator will sign off the C100 to enable an application to court.
Well done for giving it one last shot, let's hope it works out for you and your kids.
Thanks Mojo, you have been very helpful so far 🙂
TheDaddy
That has now been cancelled because it didn't happen during the week although I was never told, instead this is now happening Sunday evening and she would like to visit there before hand so I now don't see my child until Tuesday evening...
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