[Solved] Unique situation?

Hi there

It's very difficult for you, you could get a solicitor to act on your behalf and apply for a Child Arrangements Order for contact. This could be specified as Skype, or telephone calls and contact to happen during school holidays, it could be part of the order that the mother release your daughters passport to you to enable you to take her to your home to meet her larger family. It would be very expensive though, although you could try and negotiate a fixed price with a solicitor, who would need to be from the area that your daughter lives.

Some Mediators offer Skype mediation, this might also be an option, but even if she agreed to this any agreements made wouldn't be legally binding.

Good luck

Hi Mojo,
Thank you very much for your quick response. Indeed, I have tried moderators with my daughter´s mother but it kind of died off after few weeks/months due of being nothing for her but "hard work" so to speak. We did set up a parental plan including skype, regular telephone calls or any kind of "modern communication" system to keep contact with my daughter. I am afraid that she did cut off the skype, telephone calls, making almost impossible visiting and so on. Since parental plans has no legal binding, she quickly started missbehaving on that respect.

I thought that having a half sister/brother (wife 3 months pregnant now) will make it easier to get a Child arrangement Order since they will be step sisters/brother. It surely would count in my favor, but as you well said, I am afraid that it is going to be a very expensive process which I have no money for. I consulted a lawyer especialized in family affairs a year ago and after explaining my situation he suggested a Child arrangement Order, with the starting price of 500 pounds just to start the paperwork.
I must said that I am no law expert by all means and I am so confused about the legality and chances of having the ideal deal of being able to take my daughter on holidays and have regular contact by phone, wassap or skype.
I will follow your advide and try to contact someone on the Stamford/Peterborough area which is where my daughter lives. I ask if they have fixe prices too. If anyone knows a good lawyer in that area please feel free to contact me.
Mojo, thanks again. Great site.
Rafael

Hi Rafael

There is a cheaper option, you could consider using a McKenzie Friend, a good MF is equal to a solicitor and at a fraction of the cost. The only thing is that they are an unregulated body and there are some charlatans. Do some research and if you think this might be for you, we can help to point you in the right direction.

Good luck

Hi Nannyjane,
Thank you for your advice. It looks like is an option that suits my needs already. I suppose that they have to be from the local area where my daughter lives? Do you have any good one in mind from experience so I can contact he/she?

thank you so much again
Rafael

...let me look into it and get back to you...I'm sure we can come up with something.

They don't necessarily need to be from the same area, the only reason for that is that you would also have to pay them to cover travelling expenses and also if they are from the area that your daughter lives the will know the local courts and will have experience of them.

Cheapest option is to represent yourself. You come across as a smart person although It might seem daunting, it's do-able. A good McKenzie friend can also help with some complicated situations and be supportive in the court room. If you have some spare change but also need to watch your outgoings, a nice combination of a MK as well as LIP should do the trick.

All the best!

Excellent!. Thank you for taking the time and effort. Please come back to me when you are ready. I never had as much help as now guys. excellent site. 😀

Thank you halfoyster... looks like there is light at the end of the tunnel after all 🙂

... I've just spoken to Reunite international and they do have a couple of options that they could discuss with you and at the very least offer advice and support. Before you start down the court route I think it would be a good idea to have a chat with them. Here's their contact number....I spoke to a young lady called Vicky Mayes and she can be reached on

0116 2556234

Here's their website

www.reunite.org

Sorry I don't know what the dialling code is from Sweden.

Good luck

As you live in Sweden I thought it may be difficult to attend court here and more expensive with travelling costs and time off work....that's why I didn't mention self representing, but it is an option and one which we can of course help with is you go,down this route.

Nannyjane.... thank you so much. I will take her details and I will contact her. It is good to exploit all the options before court as I feel it could go agry instead. So Mckenzie Friend (I am already reading about it) and reunite.org, Vicky Mayes. I feel a bit doubtful about self representation, I have never done it and I feel I would have to know all the tricks in the book to get out alive which I dont.
Nannyjane, I will talk to Vicky and mention I got recommended by you. You have help me more in a few hours that anybody has in 5 years. In writing sounds simple, but I am so thankful. You guys know how much it hurts and how good it feels to have a helping hand. I wish eventually I can return the favour helping from my experience to other members as much as I can.
I will keep you inform of the process Nannyjane.
Now I have something to work on, it feels great! 🙂
Thumbs up to you mate.
Rafael