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Hi I dont know if I should post here but I dont know where else to.I separated 18 months ago and since then I have had my son and my stepdaughter 3 nights a week.I pick them up from school on a tues and then drop them off on a thursday.I then pick them up from school on a friday and drop them off saturday evening.So therefore my ex has them 1 more night per week/4 a month.I give her £100 a month.I know this is not much to alot of people but it is to me and I am really struggling.I go without eating myself sometimes as I cannot afford to.I really dont see how it can be justified that because she has them 1 more night than me,that she can claim child benefit and tax credits and still get money off me which equates (just with the money I give her)to £25 for the 1 night a week.She only feeds them 1 more night than me.I get no help and am struggling to pay bills and feed myself.The kids never go without its just I dont know how much longer I can last before I end up destitute.Any advice would be greatly received thanks.
hi
I'm not sure that there's much advice I can give - I assume that you are paying in accordance with the CSA calculations. Unfortunately, the rules were set up so that the CSA could deal with a large number of cases as they were failing badly originally, but it does mean that some cases, such as yours, do come off very badly - is there any chance your ex will come to an agreement, especially as you are paying towards your stepdaughter.
If any other dads can give advice here, it would be appreciated.
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