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Hi. My ex partner moved 100 miles away with the kids. They went 3 years ago. She's now re married and has step children who also live with my children.
My ex has been facilitating transport to me and then meeting me half way on their return. She drops them at her parents house near me on Friday and I collect them Saturday, we then meet half way on Sunday. I'm wanting to have them Friday-Sunday. So now she's saying that she will be able to facilitate this as she will have to travel to see her parents on the week in between. Were now in court and she's asking due to her new circumstances of work and their new family lifestyle that she can't do any transport either way.
Can the courts force her to help with delivering/collecting the children?
She's really dug her heels in and is adamant that the previous contact arrangement no longer fit it with her lifestyle...
Can she use her new job as an excuse? Can she use her new family routine as an excuse? final hearing next week.
Thanks for reading.
Hi there
I'm not sure they could to be honest, the fact that she has new work commitments would be something that they would take on board. All you can do to is to argue your position, but I would be prepared to compromise, maybe suggesting that you do one way each.
To be honest, I would have thought doing one trip each rather than meeting half way every time would actually be more sensible - it's the same mileage, but you're not then hanging around if she gets stuck in traffic, and vice versa, and that way you might be able to argue that she only has to work out travel day for one journey, rather than two.
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