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Hello
Can anyone explain to me how I go about transferring sole custody to my ex please?
We can to the conclusion that it would be easier if she has got sole custody of our daughter who is nearly 17.
I am out of the country very often and it would make things easier for circumstances where both parents need to sign for things on behalf of the child. Although she is nearly 18 and then won’t need our permission any more.
But we are keen to get that custody issue sorted ASAP.
Any info re how to go about it and court costs (if it needs to be finalised by a judge) would be great.
It's difficult to relinquish PR - what sort of circumstances are you thinking of that would need both parents signatures?
Actd is right, there has to be compelling reasons for PR to be removed (I’m assuming that’s what you mean by custody). The courts won’t consider it if it’s just a matter of convenience or you.
At your daughters age, there are very few situations where both parents signatures would be required.
You don’t have long to wait until your child reaches an age where she won’t need your consent, so waiting for that would be my advice to you.
Can’t think of anything but want to be sure ‘she’ can’t stitch me up any more in any way possible.
Had to send a letter of consent for my daughter to change her name to the ex’s maiden name otherwise she will contest the divorce and I have to hang in there for 2 to 5 years which I am not prepared to do but haven’t got the funds to drag it through the court .....
As you can see she’s trying everything to make things as difficult as possible and I just want to move on and forget about it all ....
That's probably one of the few situations where she needs your signature. I think trying to relinquish PR would probably prod the court into looking at the situation more closely, which might involve reports etc, so I'd just leave this alone and get your divorce sorted. Even if you were to successfully relinquish PR, you will still be liable for child maintenance, so there aren't any other situations I can think of. In theory, if she wants to move abroad, she'd need to get the permission of the court, but in reality, if you don't object, the court wouldn't know about it anyway.
Yes, it seems that it might be best just to leave it.
I am paying more child maintenance than I legally have to (voluntarily) .
Just can’t wait for this saga to be finally over.
Is there a case open with CMS? If not, then I would seriously consider opening one yourself with them. The will calculate the correct amount, and the divorce court won't override this. You can continue to voluntarily pay more than the minimum, but once the divorce is over, you have the option to reduce your payment to the minimum should you wish, or you can continue to pay as you do, but it gives you a bit of leverage over her to improve the way she deals with you.
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