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Received text from toxic ex wife after almost 2 years of no contact.she says we need to discuss our 17 year old son and nothing else! I ignored and blocked number. She tried to breakup me and new wife by going to solicitor and making up lies.my new wife is angry. I promised any more contact and I'll contact solicitor. I contacted my 17 year old son myself. Turns out he was drunk and got sick. My daughter with ex is 20 so I contact them myself. I think ex is trying to regain control. I have 18 month old daughter with new wife but I still call 80 miles every other week to see my kids.
Does sound like your ex is trying to get some control, or possibly she's just pissed off that she's having to deal with this on her own (but presumably doesn't have any problem with the good times she has with your kids). If you can contact your kids directly, I would get your solicitor to send a single letter to her stating that is what you will do in future and you want no further contact from your ex, and that all communications will be blocked. I would tell your solicitor that any further communication from her is to be returned and that he only acts for you in sending this letter - otherwise she could start racking up your fees.
Am not working at min so no worry on solicitors bills as would get legal aid. I cant believe toxic ex thinks i can just forget what she did. Shes with someone else now and has young child with him as well. She ended it with me but i foolishly stayed friends. I helped her out with money and let her use my holiday home. I looked after my kids. She went to solicitor when i refused to look after my kids and her dog in her house so she could go away for a week! I told her my kids are almost 20 and 17 so can look after themselves and i live 80 miles away with new wife and young daughter. Ex said i could bring my young daughter to hers as well! Deluded?
Unless there is domestic violence involved, there is no longer legal aid available for family cases, so check this carefully before you start to run up charges.
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