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Just watching Sky news about Sir Paul Coleridge who's caused a massive stink as he speaks out about family breakdown here's an article I found I know it's the daily fail but at least you get the picture............
I'm not convinced that couples would stay together because of any tax incentives, though I suppose it might reduce some of the strains on a marriage if there are money issues. But I have to agree - very few people I know are still on their 'original' marriage, and I think a couple of years ago, of all of my daughters schoolfriends, only one still have her original parents still together.
I just thought it was cool that he's spoke out about the effect a break up has on the Kids at least someone out the system is speaking about it 🙂
Not only spoke up about it, but resigned from the family court on the principle.
I know fair play to the man, he was going for it on Sky news this morning very impressive indeed!
It took me 30 years to get over the split up of my Mum and dad, The sense of rejection I felt from my Dad not being there for me stayed with me all that time and the fact he wasn't put on my Birth certificate really screwed me up, My ex knew this and from the outset said she would never allow me on my Daughters certificate just to spite me she knew it would be my worst nightmare what is happening at the moment I honestly can't see me ever getting to be part of my daughters and sister lives as she is so resolute in trying to get me to commit suicide or just walk away, I don't expect anything to go my way in this whole situation I'm only doing it so My Girls will know I tried everything possible to be part of there lives like my dad never.
...I honestly can see you getting to be a part of your girls lives!
However it's best not to build up expectations because the court process is a long, hard one with lots of ups and downs....it usually works out well, even after a rocky start. Keep the faith Slim x
From the second my ex told me she was pregnant 16 months ago she said I was never going to be part of the girls lives, she said I wasn't allowed at the scans, birth I wasn't going to be put on the birth certificate and I will never be part of my daughters or sisters lives and she has been true to her word so I have expected the worst all along and I've never had any good news and nothing has ever gone my way so my expectations are very low to the point of I think this whole process is not going to get me anywhere.
My ex knows full well the courts can't force her to let me be part of the girls lives and all she has to do is refuse any sort of contact and they can't issue me with any without her say so, she will never back down until she gets help with her drinking and she'll never admit to been an alcoholic.
Like I said at least the girls will know when they're older I've tried I'm keeping my bundle of evidence and I write to my Girl so to does my mum so they will know, I also think it's cool they will be able to Google my name and see what I've been up to with my djing 🙂
That's just not true Slim....the courts can force her to make your daughter available to you and the court don't need her agreement to make a Child Arrangement Order.
There are cases where the mother has been given a prison sentence for breaching contact orders and some have had their child taken from them and placed with the other parent for continual refusal to allow contact.
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