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Well I was expecting my ex to have her wrists slapped today and she just span a load of lies to explain why she didn't refer herself to the CC for 5 weeks and the court took it all in.
My head was all over earlier but I've just had it pointed out to me that If the courts didn't set this new hearing then my ex would of kept dragging her heels and she still wouldn't of organised the contact session as she only reffered herself when she received the letter to attend court today so I feel a little better.
the next hearing is set for mid november so I'm hoping for smooth contact until then at least I can concentrate on seeing my girl now and building our relationship now and I can start to get my life back together after that 9 months of [censored], I've really got to knuckle down now as I've let everything slip at work and in my personal life, Phew!
Slim
I've not known my [censored] from my elbow since saturday after that constant [censored] for every minute for 9 months and finally seeing my Girl I don't know where my heads at, I only get my support from this site as I have no family around me where I currently live and no real close friends so it's hard living on my own and just been on my own with my thoughts.
I couldn't really enjoy contact on sat as I had my ex glaring at me during contact and I was worried about today it's not helped that I've let everything slip at work and I'm behind with bills and running my flat ect think its all come to a head today I've not felt like this in a while, the ex was vile before in and after court she wouldn't stop shouting at me and arguing I don't think she is ever going to calm down she has serious issues, I couldn't believe she shown up in jeans trainers and a tshirt she looked an absolute mess she's a shadow of her former self it was sad to see.
I've started smoking again and I've not been doing my weights as normal for the past month and I think I've started to get a little depressed again I know what I've got to do it's just not happening for some reason :unsure:
Know how you feel, my family and wife's family all live abroad. didn't do friends, family was life, I go away to work for 3 days, then on my own for 4 days, like you I know what to do to get through the day, but putting it into practice is not easy, its the legal process that does me in, I rang mediation, they said ex hasn't contacted them, so they write again and give her another 2 weeks, then I can go to court, then its that time to get to first hearing, its going to be months till I get to see stepson, I know she knows I will be allowed to see him, so why the [censored] drag it out, I get these panic attacks that go on for hours, just brake down. all I get in my head is when she realizes the reality she will jump on plane with stepson, not because of me but because real father will be involved, I know she will and I carnt do anything about it, ive asked court, carnt do anything to stop her until I apply for contact order, I was going to stop smoking next week don't think I will be, does anyone here go to families need fathers meetings, are they any good, everyone on here keeps me going but feel like I need more support.
Chin up guys, it's horrible when you're in the thick of it all. It will all be worth it one day and you can both hold your heads up and know your kids will be grateful you fought like dogs for them. You've all been doing amazing at it.
Slim, keep at it hun. You inspire so many Dads on here. I'm sorry yesterday wasn't quite what you expected but the judges aren't daft. What excuses did your ex come up with for delaying the CC session?
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