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FTER SIX YEARS FIGHTING THEY SAID IF I COMPLAINED THEY WOULD TAKE THE CHILDREN OFF ME .THREE YEARS LATER MY DAUGHTER RECORDED ALL THE THREATS ON HER PHONE WENT TO SCHOOL PLAYED IT TO A TEACHER AND THEN HEAD MISSTRESS THEY CONTACTED SOCIAL SERVICES WHO THEN SAID TO MY DAUGHTER YOU BETTER GO AND LIVE WITH YIOUR DAD FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS SHE WAS THEN THIRTEEN SHE TRID COMMITING SUICIDE A SHORT TIME AFTER .NOW SHE IS COMING UP TO 21 AND NOT SPOKEN APART FROM ONCE BY ACCIDENT TO HER MOTHER FROM THE DAY SHE LEFT .WE NOW WANT TO TAKE SOCIAL SERVICES TO COURT
sorry think my message got cut off .in 2001 had a fight over four chidren where I had ful lcusedy of her sons .and had to fight for my daughters one who was strangled locked in a cupboard punched kicked all reported to social services and police who did northing .who in the end after six years of court battles recorded it all on her phom
to teachers and left to live me me ftill now all the phonecalls and words the children told me were written down with dates ;now she is almost 21 we want to seek legal advice on taking social services to court her morther who has she has not spoken to has now split up and havngy treatment for achoolism which basily confirms what I tokd them 16yrs ago
Hi there
I've put both of your posts under one thread as they are about the same subject.
I can only imagine the distress and heartache experienced by you and your daughter all those years ago, thank goodness she had the presence of mind to make those recordings and seek help,at school.
I fully understand why you would want to get some justice for what happened, but it might not be that simple. if you want redress from Social Services the only way that I can think of would be to go and see your MP, if you can get them involved they do have the power to escalate it to the Parliamentary Omsbudsman, although what can be done so long after the event, I'm not sure of.
It might also be possible to pursue a criminal convinction against her mother for the physical and manual abuse your daughter suffered, the police would the ones to speak to in that instance, but again whether they will act is another matter.
Perhaps the most effective option would be to get some counselling for your daughter and yourself to help you deal with the u resolved issues you have....sometimes it's better to try and heal the wounds that are left rather than leave them open.
I wish you and your daughter all the best.
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