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I just hope that one day that these issues are recognised properly- which will lead to the process changing. There is so much at fault and logically unbelievable within the system I just don’t know how and why this can be.
The simple answer is money - solicitors, judges, barristers, the government all make huge amounts of money from a fault based system. They'd all be out of jobs if it wasn't this way.
They could easily give all parents equal residence as a matter of course and then the only cases that would go to court would be those which have genuine safeguarding issues.
I'm so sorry to hear this lollyrus... we all know how hard you've fought and how much it has taken out of you both. You can both hold your heads high, knowing that you did everything humanly possible to be a part of that poor boys life.
The mother probably sees it as a victory, but there are no winners in this situation. You and your partner need time to heal and regroup, it has probably been all consuming for you both and now it's time to concentrate on each other.
Like Jonathan1122 I hope that his son will eventually see the bigger picture and have a better understanding of the situation, I'm sure the door remains open for him if he should come looking.
All the best
Don't give up for the future, in a few years it can change - send a message on birthdays and Christmas if you can, but once the mother has no control, you may find that the relationship can be rebuilt.
Hi There,
I know where you are coming from, I had to make the decision to walk away from my child and seeing them due to my ex, it was 5 years before I saw him again, and I am starting to rebuild a relationship again.
My ex controlled him so he didn't know whether he was coming or going when he was seeing me, it was like so hard on my son and he was telling me he didn't want to see me.
As said above, if and when you decide to break away you need to be able to say and know you did all you could.
GTTS
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