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I think now its time to put this all to bed ...the cafcass officer is clearly on exs side even the judge maybe ive did aĺl i can do ....but its all behind closed door that my daughter is being turned against me and i think until my daughter is brave enough and strong enough to stand up to her mom going to court is just a waste of time .i know the court inside out ive paid for solicator ive used 7000 pound for stuff i could of found on net...i know my daughter deep down knows this is all bollocks but i believe atm my daughter is protecting her self from her mom by just telling her mom what mom wants to hear .ive had many chats with my wife and i think now its just the end the proper end this time to all court ...i had two years of loads of unsupervised contact with my daighter we made up for lost time we have loads of memorys proper happy memorys and we didnt have them i would be worried that she would never come look for me but i believe she will becuase she knows all the stuff her mom says is a load of shite but atm shes putting her own feelings a side to please her mom which isnt right but she has to do that to stop her all the mind games her mom plays with her so if my daughter plays along its easier i think when she hits her teens her mom will start to see the damage shes caused and i believe my daughter will come find me she knows where i live she will have social media and i just have to wait a couple more years my daughter and i have a strong relationship and shes bright and she knows whats going on so im going to agree to all recommendations ...i love my daughter shes funny beautiful looks like me and has been through alot these past few years but ive never been the one to stop contact and ive always done my best and beyond but now i guess the best thing to do is wait for her ..thank you for all help am gutted and crying like a baby but i know this is the right thing...ive come so close to suicide because of the stress but what will that do and how would my daughter understand so now i wait but she will be back i love you daughter i never wanted all this court but im powerless and have fighted to the end i love you so much you really are my air i breath
I have been to the point of giving up and my stubborn side has said one more last chance, i've managed to get court to see that there is some alienation at play and has finally given me the chance for my (child) to have a voice, my (child) will be seen by professionals and they will hopefully get the truth and the ex will then be seen for all she is....a narasistic alienator.
i'll be honest with you fella....how i've remained focussed with allt he cr*p the ex pulled and the last few years of no contact i do not know....however, i have photos on my wall and window sills of my (child) on many of the days we had together and (child's) smile and the look in (child's) eyes make it clear....(child) will remember me and remember our time together....and that my friend is what i focus my strength and stubborness on.
Don't give up until you have no other option, and if that day comes then stand tall and say that you did all in your power within the law to be there for your child....
she'll thank you for that one day.....she won't thank you for doing anything stupid!
Do what you need to do for you to keep healthy and mentally fit again, and keep those good time memories as your focus.
I have been to the point of giving up and my stubborn side has said one more last chance, i've managed to get court to see that there is some alienation at play and has finally given me the chance for my (child) to have a voice, my (child) will be seen by professionals and they will hopefully get the truth and the ex will then be seen for all she is....a narasistic alienator.
i'll be honest with you fella....how i've remained focussed with allt he cr*p the ex pulled and the last few years of no contact i do not know....however, i have photos on my wall and window sills of my (child) on many of the days we had together and (child's) smile and the look in (child's) eyes make it clear....(child) will remember me and remember our time together....and that my friend is what i focus my strength and stubborness on.
Don't give up until you have no other option, and if that day comes then stand tall and say that you did all in your power within the law to be there for your child....
she'll thank you for that one day.....she won't thank you for doing anything stupid!Do what you need to do for you to keep healthy and mentally fit again, and keep those good time memories as your focus.
thanks for post mate ...i can try argue my point in court but this time they really have all just [censored] on me from a great height they give me indirect contact three times a year bday xmas n six weeks ....this judge i have sides with cafcass its like they are man haters all of them so i really dont have even a 1% chance ...sad really 1o n half years for three letters a year ...they even said in report child needs to be able to be child free if that is alienating behaviour but the court n cafcass n ex are all against me they dont listen to anything i say ....best part is they said do cbt and we can move it forward and this just shows that ive done it and it ment nothink to them ..because i ended previous application in a bad decision i made they think that child cant take all of it and mams saying that its destroying child which is a joke when she stop contact for no reason when my child was use to speaking to me everyday then on morning of school i have the text off ex saying ive told xyz that she doesnt have to see you anymore...that is so shocking but none of this matters because dads in court are nothink to the courts its all mum mum mum its all such a mess one day i hope all these bent cafcass n judges get jailed
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