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My partner is involved in a court case to get access to his daughter.
Last night, unprovoked, I recieved a threatening message from the boyfriend of the ex.
Along the lines of 'keep your nose out or I will turn your world upside down". I've never spoken to this man. Or the ex. Or had any invovlement. I've no idea why he would send this.
The child is currently being withheld from my partner, against the court order. The court order has been broken multiple times with both the denial of contact, and the ex coming inside the soft play where contact was to initially take place.
They are back in court in 2 weeks.
With the above in mind, how would you deal with an unprovoked threatening message? Report to the police? Or not? Inform the social worker? Or not? Or just the solicitor and have it brought up in court.
I don't want to damage my partners case if this is simply an attempt to drag his name through the mud via me. Not sure where to go with this.... help!
Hi there
As you're not involved in the case I can't see how reporting it would damage your partners case. It really depends on what you want to happen, it's threatening, so you could report it to the police, you could request that he is just spoken to and issued with a warning, or you could push for an injunction. Once reported it will be on file, you could also speak to the social worker and solicitor, but as he's not a party to the case either, I'm not sure they could follow it up to any great extent.
It is harassment,
Do not respond to it
Report it to the police, it is harassment and there are powers the police have, as you are female they will take you more seriously about harassment than if you were not!
i know first hand on that one! may be i ought to "man up" i was told by an officer when i was being threatened by my ex and her family!
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