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Back in 2007 I went through divorce. At the time I was struggling financially. My father sat down with me and helped me re budget, Over the next 2 years he would help me out with some money here and there. then towards the end of 2009 he had produced a list of everything he had spent on me! It totalled in excess of £10,000. But he said he only wants half of it back, which he wants on the 9th March 2012, I was slightly gobsmacked that he had done this but felt backed into a corner to agree. Well over the last year or so we don't speak anymore. He has now said to me I need to pay the money back to him in 14day or he will start court proceedings. Please can you tell me if this is right? since I never agreed to take the money in the first place
Hi there
I think your father would have an uphill struggle if he were to take you to court. It would be a civil case in the small claims court and he would have to pay to get it in front of the judge. Without anything in writing such as an agreement to pay him back I doubt he would get very far.
Thanks Mojo,
Even if I had initially agreed verbally with him that I would? I had even agreed by text message a year or so ago? again being pushed into a corner. A lot has happened over the last 2 years to which he hasn't been there for. For example I had heart surgery in April last year and my parents never visited as they didn't like my new fiancée, Then in April last year to send an olive branch out I invited them to my wedding wo which they didn't attend!. I mentioned all this to him last weekend when he showed up unannounced he just said that I separate I don't care I want my money!
I don't know the full story but based on what you've told, I feel sorry for your dad. He helped you and regardless of what has happened since, he was there once when you needed him. Also he only wants half of it back.
Just take a loan and pay him back. He might need it for genuine reasons
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