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can anybody advise me whether my ex can lawfully stop me speaking to my children by phone even if she has told me that to get any contact with my children i will have to go through the courts?
Let me give you some back ground into my situation: i was married to what i thought was a wonderful woman (who came across as someone who wouldn't say boo to a goose?), how wrong was i? we were married for ten years and have 3 lovely children, our marraige was probably like most except that she use to get angry and either self harm or attack me! well i put up with this for almost 10 years and use to confided in her mother during the attacks (another mistake), well i tried to leave the marraige twice but was talked into staying for the sake of the children, however 12 months later when she attacked me again something inside me snapped, and i just grabbed her by her throat and shouted at her to leave me alone (but i can still say to this day that i never ever hit her), obviously i was totally ashamed of what i did and i left the house and went and confided into her mother again, whilst i was at her mothers my ex called the police but she didn't press charges!
that was the day our marraige was over (and to be honest it was probably the best thing to come from this) However, 18 months later and fully divorced i was left with next to nothing from the divorce, but that didn't bother me as i just thought "at least my children will benefit from the money", and i can finally get on with my life and find happiness again? (how wrong was i )
3 months ago i had a knock at my door at 7.30 in the morning, it was the police! they arrested me after allegations that i had indecently touched my daughter and took pictures of her in the bath and on the Loo?
they searched my house, took all my phones, computers and camera's. which they returned after 2 months and all charges were dropped with no evidence (they even interviewed my daughter 3 times) Yet i knew that these allegations were false but when i asked the police who made the allegations they refused to tell me? why do the police (and system) protect the identity of these people when they clearly make false allegations? surely they should be prosecuted for wasting police time? i did manage to find out from the Child services assessment that both her and her mother had made the claims, they said that my daughter had told them! Child services also put down that they wasn't happy that they were unable to perform a full and thorough assessment due to my ex and her mothers lack of assistance (again says as clear as mud that they were hiding something?)
Obviously i want to go to court to get contact with my children, but i fear that if i do get contact then she will only make other allegations just to ruin me, so my only option is to speak to the children to let them know i love them and will always be at the end of the phone if they ever need me and just walk away! its not what i want but its 🙁 the only way i can keep my sanity
after getting screwed over in the divorce i don't have much confidence in the legal system?
i blame the mother as she has always controlled her daughter even in our marriage
and the whole family should be actors as they portrayed very convincing roles in anything they do?
example, her father has had a so called bad back for the last 20-years yet use to go fly fishing 3 times a week, her brother has mysteriously had a bad back and not worked either for the last 7 years but use to go logging with me and his dad?
my ex use to say that she didn't have enough time in the day to do all the ironing and house work, yet in front of the judge in the divorce she showed him she looked after the children, house and worked over 16hrs a week as a cleaner just so she could get all the equity in the house to get a mortgage for her and the children (and it worked)
it seems some people know how to play the system to their advantage?
my oldest is ten, i think given the chance he would love to come to me as he is very relaxed and happy when he is here, but he get very anxious and angry towards his mother when he is at home!
Hi Mate.
Ive had the same recently of my ex. Shes made accusat5ions that i have touched my daughter inapropriatley. the Police and S Serrvices got involved wich came to nothing. Its discustig how these mothers can pull out all the aces to try and stop us dad's from seing our kids.
Its like they have noting else to do other than to cause misery! Im kinda wishing the next 10 years of my life away so my kids can decide for them self if they wana see me or not!!
Hello everyone . Jesus what a world we live in i truelly feel for you 2 guys , my god .
Too much power to mothers is causing havoc . these accusations are completely sick !!! I have made the decision never to see my kids again as paid the ultimate in losing my freedom ! Our children have scumbags as mothers , i only hope all our kids see through these witches in time i really do . Sorry to sound harsh but cannot help it .
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