[Solved] The truth about Family Court

It is tough and I agree the system is flawed and favours the mother who in these cases is prepared to lie to CAFCASS and the Police. In my case CAFCASS saw through the lies and I got a good Section seven report and in the final hearing I had a really good barrister who managed to highlight all the lies and restrictive behaviour. In the end I was awarded access inline with the Section seven report.

You just need to be strong and hope that the magistrates and CAFACSS see through the lies.

Has your partner/friend had the final hearing?

Hi

No he's not got to final hearing yet. He's waiting for a fact finding so family court can decide if he's abused his child. They don't accept the police have thoroughly investigated and have correctly decided he didn't. The fact finding has been delayed for another 2 months at the request of the Guardian because various reports haven't been filed due to yet another court mess up. Cafcass have been against him since Day 1, Social Services too and no judge has ever seen through her lies. The only people who have seen through her are the school but no one listens to them. He really can't take any more. He's in so much debt he can't afford to go on anyway. It's such a shame as I can see if he carried on he may get somewhere. Her lies are starting to unravel. But it's his choice.

Harli

Hi There,
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It's such a shame to hear stories like this, and it is becoming more common than it was.
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If he can manage to continue through court then if they are starting to see the lies unravel then you could only hope that that continues.
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GTTS

All he can do is keep going, he's come this far and you've still got the final hearing to come so there's still a little hope, There's no need for a solicitor he can finish it off on his own and to be fair he will probably get a better result.

Don't let her win it does break you mentally physically and financially I'm still paying for it now theres no other choice he's got to carry on the battle if he does she will come unstuck sooner or later.

my heart goes out to you both

all the best

Slim x

Thanks everyone x

I'm not sure he's emotionally able to take this forward without legal help. The children and ex have solicitors and he feels disadvantaged without one but he's in so much debt getting legal help isn't an easy option. At the moment it's just a very sad situation. Two of his boys had birthdays recently and he wasn't even allowed to send a card, how inhumane is that, it breaks my heart. He's done nothing wrong and this woman has effectively ruined his life aided and abetted by Cafcass and the family court. He's genuinely worried for his children but no one wants to listen, I think that's what gets to him the most. I think he needs a small miracle now, some glimmer of hope that it's not all going to end badly if he carries on.

Harli

my god this is so dam sad, and i no how he feels,

Thanks A1dad2b

I've read your posts and your situation is very similar to his. Hopefully your ex won't stoop so low as to have you arrested by claiming you abused your child. I think that was the worst bit, 6 months on bail treated like a criminal. I think his ex is a sociopath, she looks like and angel but has a heart of pure evil. No court has seen through her lies yet, the police did, the school did but social services and Cafcass write glowing reports about what a good mother she is, makes me sick. As it stands the directions hearing has been adjourned to end of June, so he's facing another Christmas not seeing his children potentially. I don't know how the courts and Cafcass can think this is fair, he was even willing to pay for a contact centre for supervised access but the Guardian said no, no contact at all until Family court are satisfied he's not a child abuser.

I'm so sorry to hear this Harli... As much as I echo the words from others about not giving up just yest and seeing it through, sometimes the emotional burden can just get too heavy to bear any more. Only he can say when he's reached that point and all that can be done after that is to try and rebuild all the broken places. Hopefully he can find the strength for this final push, but if not, if it's a case of his own emotional survival, then he must do what is necessary for him. I know whatever happens you will be a huge support for him and I wish you both the very best.

Thanks for the support everyone. He's decided to give it until the next hearing at the end of June. By that time all the reports will be in and some of those already submitted have been critical of his ex and some lies have been uncovered, hopefully the reports yet to come will reveal more. If the Guardian's statement, which has to be submitted before the hearing for the parties to respond, has nothing positive in it then he's giving up. Much as it breaks my heart I fully support him if this happens as he's really done everything he can and he's put up with so much.. I'm truly in awe of this man, he's fought so hard for his children, sold his house, spent money he can't afford and really just existed for the past 3 years all for them. To give you an idea of the depth of evil this woman is, she actually wanted to appeal the CPS decision not to charge. She truly believes her own lies I'm sure, she's not fit to bring up three little boys, I really fear for the adults they will become.

keep us up dated pleasse, my next court date is june 2017, and thats when i guess its all going to hit me,, with exs nasty stuff, to stop my contact