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Hello this is a tricky one long story short by ex girlfriend is bipolar and currently in a mental health hospital and could be another 6 months or more ,my 9 month old son went to his grandmothers house(part of my ex's careplan)if she was ever I'll he would go to her mum.
I feel strongly I should have a say in wheres hes living while she really ill she may never be mentally well enough to look after them again.
I'm not on the birth certificate so need to apply for parental responisility what is the process of a PR order does she have to be present at court or can they just take DNA from me and my son ,they must be a way I can get pr while she's in hospital ,shes homeless aswell was previusly in temp accomidation so what I do when they ask for address
Hi there
As I mentioned on your previous thread, a lot depends on your relationship with your child.
A DNA test would only be ordered if there was disputed parentage, if that's the case then you would need to apply for a declaration of parentage and not PR as the court wouldn't make any orders in relation to the child until a dispute of this kind is settled.
If there's no dispute over your parentage then you would make an application for PR and contact/ residence at the same time. However unless you have a close bond with your child I doubt they would move him, unless there was a good reason to do so.
As she is in hospital I would assume the grandparents would be the ones that would attend court, it's likely that they have been given PR when it was decided that your child should live with them. It would be helpful if you speak to your sons social worker and find out what their position is.
It might help to get in contact with the child law advice line. They can give you more information about this situation. It's possible that if the grandparents have PR you would need to put them as the respondents, and it would therefore be their address that would go on the form, but it's better to check this out.
Even if an application to have him live with you wasn't successful, you could still hope for an order for contact. Have you thought about asking the grandparents if you can have regular contact? If they are against this then you could try mediation as a way to get some agreement in place.
Al, the best
Here's a link to the child law adviceline
http://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/contact-child-law-advice/
..and the mediation services
www.nfm.org.uk
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