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In the directions hearing the courts requested a letter from my ex's health visitor stating what emotional effect it would have on my girls if I was to be part of their lives.
The whole letter basically said because of my domestic violence that it would emotionally disturb both my girls, this woman has never met me and she is saying all this because she heard a phone call between me and my ex on loud speaker. she said my tone was angry and my ex barricaded herself in the house after the call.
She reeled off all these stats saying how bad the girls would be affected by domestic violence because she used to work in the domestic violence unit at the health trust.
Now I know where my ex has been getting all her coaching from.
I can't believe she is allowed to say this without even meeting me and how she can deprive two girls of their father because of one phone call when my ex has never reported anything to the police ss or anyone it's complete rubbish.
I'm just worried the courts are going to believe it all as they seem to everything else :/
What sort and how do I reply to that???
Slim
You can address the letter in your statement and just as you have said here....the fact that she is basing her opinion on overhearing one phone call, never having met or spoken to you. The fact that your ex put the call on loudspeaker when the HV was with her looks like this was engineered by your ex to show you in a bad light, you could also say that your ex knew exactly what to say to get a reaction from you and that you feel you were manipulated. Reiterate that your ex cannot provide any tangible proof of alleged Dv and has never previously reported any DV to the police or other agencies and you dispute it wholeheartedly.
The courts are used to allegations of DV, they see it all the time and usually without any proof that it has happened they will ignore it.
Thanks so much for the prompt reply mate it's cheered me up no end, this week has been the worst so far I've never felt so [censored] low.
Do you mean address the letter in my position statement?
Or a seperate statement in reference to the new evidence
As Mojo says - there is no objective evidence of DV.
Not informing you that you were on speakerphone in front of a health professional should give you a legitimate ground to raise concern to the court that this was engineered and her best evidence.
I would also suggest you write a complaint to her practice as she is giving evidence as a health visitor not a DV officer. The fact is as the kids have not been subjected to emotional abuse she really should stop there. You can ask if this has gone through their legal team for checking as this is a legal document afterall. State your concerns she has based her allegations on one phonecall which was engineered and this is grossly unprofessional.
This is clearly one persons view and actually someone whom has never met you. You could get a letter from your GP stating in their professional opinion that you are a reasonable person and pose no risk. May counteract any potential damage caused.
PS well done on the other aspect told ya 90 days is enough to be a new man
Good luck
I defo feel the urge to write a statement to dispute all her allegations as they're not on at all, I'm sure that letter is far beyond her call of duty and I really want to complain to her practice to.
In her letter she made the most unbelievable wild accusations all off one over heard phone call.
Many thanks for the reply boycie π
Boycie makes some very good points...yes definitely file a response to her report, you can pull it apart with very little effort IMO!
Writing to the practice manager is a good idea and asking about the reports legality.
It is her opinion and not based on anything other than what your ex has told her.
I've sent the letter to NJ and she's just absolutely destroyed every sentence if not every word, what a legend that woman is and thanks for your advice and support guys, I really don't know what I would of done without this site, I don't think I would be here if i'm honest.
thanks again
Slim π
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