[Solved] That lasted long

Life,

It's so disappointing how these ex's of ours cannot see the simplicity of things - that it is in the child's best interests to have contact with the the father.

Yet they seem hellbent on [censored] for tat and creating problems.

Sadly, all we can do is go by the book and do what we can to promote the smooth running of contact, despite the destructive actions of these sad and pathetic women.

You and I both are doing what we can, and having all manner of [censored] thrown at us. But it's just an opportunity to gather evidence on these women and prove that they are not child focused. Sooner or later, they will pay the price in court for this.

I know neither you or I will ever give up on our kids or fighting to be in their lives. So let's keep in the faces of these horrible women, keep the pressure on them and watch them slowly hang themselves with their mistakes and their negative actions.

Chin up JT 🙂

Simon.

On a more practical note.....you now have solid grounds for going back to court and enforcing the order on the basis that she denied your son contact with you.

You clearly didn't break the order last week. The ex is clutching at straws. Her reasoning is flawed and behaviour childish.

Of course if you can resolve this by just leaning on her barrister to persuade the ex to then all well and good. But this ex of yours is a law unto herself, and perhaps now is the time to get back in court, explain she is not promoting contact, she is playing games and [censored] for tat, and that you would like any further breaches to be punishable.

I know for sure in my own case, the minute the ex denies my son contact with me and doesn't show up, I will have her back in court pronto and be asking for penalties in future.

There's a fine line between being amicable and not being amicable. But I learnt the harsh lesson this week that no matter what I do, or how nice and reasonable I be, the ex will shaft me when it suits her to do so. So now I'm straight down the line, no more concessions, no more mister nice guy. I will deal with her how her lawyer deals with me, and that's it.

Sounds like you are in the same position with your ex.

Simon.

Dude, You've made me smile again ! --- Thanks for that !

I'm going to email the MF and am on the phone to FNF to see if there is anything we've missed on the legal front.

As much as I know I need to get back to court ASAP and I will do that, I just don't want to... (But I will)

I need to ask the court if there is a location that we can sit that is well away from her family as you know she brings them all and at the last hearing started on my mum and me and my two friends.

We are a quiet and private bunch and do not do confrontation and IF WE DO then in private NEVER in public but we avoid where we can. So, yeah intimidation was well on her list.

I'm so [censored] angry right now. Last night I felt physically ill over it.

Thanks Simon 🙂

FFS what a nightmare my ex is doing exactly the same and she hasn't even organised the first session of contact yet she is just laughing in the face of the court order and I know for a fact that she will play these stupid games what your Ex's are playing when contact does start.

I wish there was something in place where when someone doesn't comply with an order that they get hauled straight back to the courts but these women know the Courts rarely punish the Mother so it just goes on and on, I'm gutted I'm going to miss my Daughters first Birthday next month too it's soul destroying, my ex has already told me I've got no chance of seeing her at xmas either.

What gets into these women I will never know 🙁

Life, read one of my latest posts on FNF someone mentioned something you ask for at the next hearing to get her back in court asap.

I hear you Slim !

As simon says though, there needs to be penalties attached to the court orders.

The 3 circuit Judges I was lucky to have (2 woman and a main man) expressed to my ex that there would be big penalties including prison, unpaid work or other strict punishment. They almost spelled it out to her. She left crying (an act I'm sure)

She mentioned to me during the week that she did not want to go to jail.... [censored]???? She does this today? Really????

My phone is in flight mode because I cannot bear the thought of seeing any SMS from her, I would not be able to contain myself in my replies.

Life, read one of my latest posts on FNF someone mentioned something you ask for at the next hearing to get her back in court asap.

I seem to be locked out on there.... What a pain in the [censored]...! Can you PM me a copy of what was written there.

Hey Life

I know how your feeling regarding reading the texts,whenever I read them I felt sick to the stomach and anxious hence in the end i told my ex that I had got rid of my phone as the constant abuse and demands was awful at the time,i know I could of got another phone but that still would not of helped for me but then I still got abuse via email lol,me and the ex have no contact at all now and my own story is very opposite to what yours and other dads are on this site so on other aspects of your posts I can offer little advice other than just to say I am around to talk to etc,i have not been on for a while but will get on more now even though I sometimes feel that because of my situation I don't really belong on here but that's my own feelings,this site was a life saver for me and the support was and still is amazing despite my story and situation.

Simon, Slim, Lewy -- Thanks 🙂

I'm conscious of taking peoples time and don't want to come on here with tittle tattle, but for me, these are real issues no matter how small.

I do appreciate the patience shown with me here, 🙂 It's all going to a great cause! My son :):):)

Just hate the bad atmos between Her, her family and us having to constantly bite our lips so not to respond at her level.

Thank you Life

No matter how small a problem is its always best to share it to get it off your mind and talk it over on here,you don't need to be conscious at all of taking peoples time as we are all here for one another on this site and to support all through good and bad times,your doing a fantastic job and you are doing the right thing with biting your lip,just keep smiling when the atmosphere turns bad and just have the thoughts of your son in your head at those times,that will get you through.

There are some great people on here and me and Slim have actually had a beer together (or few) back in June and meeting up was great,hes a top bloke and great to talk to.