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Hi all. I’ve got full residency of my daughter mum has her 2 nights a week and 50/50 during holidays due to welfare issues.
At the weekend mum messaged saying that she wants 50/50 as they’re not in school.
I explained they’re still learning from home and she can go to school if needed as I’m a key worker.
Am i right and she’s trying to pull a fast one??? Advice???
hi,
I would advise that schools are closed but students are doing home learning, so it is term time technically.
Its not 50-50 just because schools are closed temporarily. You follow the usual contact arrangements as per court order. I think all of us dads would like 50-50 because schools are shut , but it doesnt work like that .
You can however if u choose to temporarily offer more contact to your ex partner on a temporary basis until children do return to school properly.
I thought so, much appreciated.
Just wanted to check
Just ensure if you do give extra temporary contact that you have it clearly agreed in writing including agreement and commitment to return the kids to you as agreed.
I'm in a similar situation with my son's mum. She's a keyworker, and without any discussion booked our son to go in to school on the 3 days a week she says she works. Two of these were days our son was otherwise supposed to be with me. I challenged this as I preferred to homeschool our son on those two days, and didn't want him going to school during this period of lockdown in any case. I am now homeschooling him on those two days.
His mother has insisted she wants our son to go into school of the 3rd day she's booked him for, even though I've offered to take him for that day too. She works with the vulnerable elderly - schools are closed because they are seen as places in which the new variant of Covid has been more highly transmissible- she has deliberately chosen not to join the dots. School have withdrawn the 3rd day as they're aware I am a willing 'other option', and she's now scrambling around trying to work out other options as she'd rather cut off her right arm than agree to him having an 'extra' daytime a week with his dad even for an agreed limited period.
I would say if you are fully able to homeschool your daughter, then stick to whatever arrangements you have with her mother. If however, there are days when you can't, maybe you could consider offering those days to her mother - but definitely have any such arrangement agreed in writing first.
yes I think home schooling is way safer. in the last week of term, a student in my daughters class tested positive. whole of year 3 was closed down. just been informed my daughter has tested positive, after catching from another family member who tested positive a few days ago.
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