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Hi,
I'm wondering if anyone can give me a quick bit of advice.
I am due to pick up my daughter at 9am tomorrow for our half term contact time together. I had planned to take her up to my mum's for a few days, which my ex is aware of.
I have just received a text from my ex to say my daughter has a temperature, and unless she's better by the morning, we won't be travelling anywhere.
I have emailed my ex to remind her that there is a court order in place that she is already breaching with other contact issues, and that my daughter being unwell shouldn't disrupt my contact time, as I also have PR, and I am capable of looking after my daughter when she's unwell. As well as the fact that my daughter is happy to have me looking after when she's unwell. I closed by saying I would be around at 9am as agreed, and that I trust she won't breach the order anymore than she already is.
If I manage to pick my daughter up tomorrow as planned, I intend on taking her up to my mum's regardless of what my ex demands - my mum is coming to pick us up at 9am - because as far as I'm aware, there is nothing to say I can't do that, and the court order only requires me to have permission if I'm leaving the country with her.
Is anyone able to clarify this?
My ex is always doing stuff like this, and it's always about trying to control me and my family and disrupt our relationship with my daughter.
Thanks in advance.
You don't need permission but you do need to be open to the possibility that your daughter does have a temperature - there are a lot of bugs doing the rounds. Don't make the mistake of making her welfare a casualty of principles.
What is the wording on your court order? Does it say your daughter will live with her mum or with both parents?
My ex has custody, and I have her two days and one night a week, and then half of all holidays. We've agreed that I will be having my daughter from 9am tomorrow until 6pm on Thursday.
I would never compromise the welfare of my daughter. My mum's is just an hour and a half away, and we are only going to be chilling out there anyway, so she will be just as rested and looked after there as she would be at mine or staying with her mum. This has happened several times before.
It's your call - see how she is tomorrow and if she's up for travelling etc. You're right, she will probably be equally as comfortable / well looked after at your mums.
My point was (and I do this myself all the time) is that it is really easy to just disbelieve everything the ex says - especially after they have put you and your child through [censored].
Yeah, totally. It can be tough to call. I don't disbelieve her in this instance as my daughter was a bit snotty when I had her the other day and there's a lot going around, but yeah, I feel there won't be much difference whether we travel an hour and a half to my mum's, or come back to mine.
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