[Solved] Supervision

I suppose the question is whether you have concerns over your child's safety when you ex is in charge - if so, then supervised contact would seem to be the reasonable way to go. I would think that CAFCASS will make enquiries about who your ex is living with, so hopefully they can establish that it's safe. I presume you ex isn't trying to get an order for your child to live with her - it's very unusual for a court to change where a child lives once settled.

Regarding the courts changing the child's address, I hope they don't do this and as of yet I really do not know what the ex wants other then the threats I'm the past about taking the child back, from what the ex said she was obtaining a solicitor and making an application to the courts herself.

I had already made the application because of weird gestures from ex talking about moving far away and I was concerned she may try to take the child.

As with lots of these information affairs there's always more to it, but so far yes we do and have made a life here for us and I always hope the mother becomes more involved and because of this I put a request for shared responsibility 50/50 this is what has somewhat caused confusion all I'm trying to do is the right thing.
Seems it may be a long road ahead ...

I don't think you should make it supervised, if it hasn't been up to now, unless there's New safeguarding concerns... it will just look like you're reacting to her allegations. You mention the strange person, have they recently moved in? You can bring it up in court if you have any concerns about her living arrangements.

If your child has been living with you for a good period of time and is settled in school etc, this is a good reason to remain with you. Generally she will need to prove her allegations, if there's no formal record that they happened, the court should disregard them, but they have to be investigated regardless, hence the S7.

Just keep your case child centred, don't concern yourself with her case too much, concentrate on showing the court that your child is happy and settled and their best interests are best served by staying with you.

Best of luck

Sorry I didn't read your last post, as you've applied for 50/50 it wouldn't make any sense to move to supervised contact.

If the court goes for the shared care arrangement, the order would state that your child lives with both of you... which kind of contradicts the PSO application. I'm a little worried that you apples to share care to be honest... but hopefully it will work out for you.

In regards to the formal record there will be one although she retracted her original statement, it's of my belief she will be now saying she was manipulated into doing this.

It was over 3 years ago now.

The house share is a new one she has only moved onto into very recently.

I'm just trying to do what's right all round because I'm always being accused of taking the child away from her.

I was always asking her when she will be will having the child stay over again because that's what the original agreement was before she had to move into shared accommodation.

I'll explain to the cafcass worker my reasons I do hope the past and my criminal record will not be of any concern because it's the past.

I'm trying my up most to remain in the present moment avoiding any conflict.

The PSO is so that hopefully if the ex decides to move miles away she will not be able to take the child.

School place has not yet been confirmed still at preschool with the hope the child gets the primary school the preschool is part of.

I assume that it is she who is accusing you of taking your child away from her, and if that's the case, I wouldn't try to placate her, because she will accuse you of that however much contact you allow. Just focus on what is best for your child, and let your ex settle in to whatever that is.