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Hi,
Newbie here.
After a tough time in court, before the final hearing I was accepted as having 'changed' by therapy and CAFCASS suggested supervised contact for a minimum of 12 months for 2 hours every two months in the community by a private social worker that I had to pay for.
I'm on my 6th contact now and each and every contact log has been great. No concerns, brilliant relationship with 7 year old. I'm now putting in a variation to have it unsupervised. Mum won't mediate through the private social worker even though the order says to do so.
What I'd like to know is, what stepped contact to every other weekend would work for the child's wellbeing? I'm unsure how it should step up over the next 12 months. Social worker is supportive of moving it forward.
I've also been in a new relationship for 2 years (1 year living with me) and have 2 girls of a similar age living with me 50/50. They have 50/50 with their dad. I'm very much in their life and have learnt a lot in ways to be child focused with my own child. My 'step daughters' know about my own daughter and my daughter knows about them but never met. I've got the introduction to think about too, which is further down the line.
My ex currently won't allow supervised contact at mine, social worker says its not an issue but has to have both parents agreement. That's just for background.
No findings of DV but multiple allegations and arrests. No charges, all no further action, no family court findings. Some allegations have been passing ex in car in opposite direction near my home, and 'looking' at my ex. These are the types of allegations made in the past.
Hi,
I suggest next step would be propose unsupervised contact in community (or supervised by family member?)for 2-4 hours, every other week for example, for 2-3 months? Then 4-8 hours at your place for 2-3 months, then progress to overnight stays, 1-2 nights every other weekend.
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