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Hello all,
As part of our latest statements my ex has said I can't have overnights until at least 2 years because she will still be feeding and this is where he gets most of his nutrition?
Any ideas how I can counter this in court? He currently spends 8 hours a day with a childminder but not overnights.
She also said I have adhd and should spend another 6 months in the contact centre (6 months already) I've got a positive caffcass report.
J
Well the obvious inconsistency which you've already spotted is that he can spend 8 hours away from her at a childminder so he must be on bottle feeding for at least some of his feeds, so I think that's definitely an argument you can start with.
As actd says, if he can stay away for 8 hours then he must be taking some bottle feeds. How old is your son? Are Cafcass involved? For eg, are they carrying out a S7?
Hi there
Looking back over your previous posts, your son is about 7 months old right now and she expresses milk for him, but refused to do so at the contact centre.
You also mentioned that you wanted overnights to start at about 18 months. I think that's fair and it's still nearly a year away, in that time he will weaned onto solid food and not reliant on milk alone for his nutrients.
I wouldn't stress too much about this, as has been pointed out, she can express and that's where the argument falls down.
You were back in court in March, what happened as far as how long you should spend in the contact centre? If you've had a good CAFCASS report, that will help, are your sessions at the contact centre supervised, have the court been given any reports about how you and your son got on?
As far as the ADHD, does this affect any other areas of your life, are you on medication or under a consultant? If you function normally, which many people do with ADHD, I don't feel it should make any difference to your ability to care for your child.
All the best
Hi Mojo,
At the last hearing the judge really ripped into her for not allowing the two hours previously agreed in court, for continously bringing up my historic drug use while refusing a test each time, for saying I'm an abduction risk without any shread of a reason (past a gut feeling) and for not giving me information about the doctor or childminder, we have a final hearing next week, currently the contact centre is ongoing s7 recommends until may it was very positive.
The sessions are all in a supported centre she said "he's only allowed supervised visits because he is a danger" i then asked the court to clarify the difference to her, but unfortunately it means no report, On a bad note I let him ride in one of these yellow and red cars (let go for seconds) and he fell out they made me fill in the accident book (he cried for 5 seconds) and now she is saying I am dangerous.
I have just received a statement from her apparently now I have adhd (I do not have) , am planning on taking our son on dangerous activities and can't possibly have more than two hours because he is deadly tired. She is saying 6 more months in a contact centre, very slow progression of about 2 hours more every 3 months.
Most of her lies are easily proved but the breast-feeding one troubles me but appreciate the advice.
I want out of centre now, (since December) contact at my parents (unsuitable living atm) then overnights when my flatmate moves out 18 months.
I'm worried I may have given to much info if I have can a mod delete please
J
My youngest with my ex was breastfed until he was over 2, but I was able to have overnights when he was over a year old. She did not express, but by that time he was on solids and a beaker of warm milk at night sent him to sleep.
There is no reason why, when they start weaning, you can not have overnights as most of their nutrition will come from solids, not breastmilk.
I would start with extended stays from morning to after the evening meal to prove that you can feed them for several means and then extend this to overnights.
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