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I have a question that maybe someone can help with. Myself and my partner split up 4 years ago and she moved from Scotland back home to England. Things were ok for the first year although I was getting a lot of hassle from my ex when it was my turn to have our son. I would be threatened that I wouldn't see him if I moved on to another partner, went to work when I had our son.
I unfortunately had a house fire 3 years ago and our family lost everything apart from the clothes on our back. I wasn't able to see my son for around 3 months due to not being able to afford to buy all his new clothes, toys as well as my own clothes whilst living in a hotel. My ex then stopped having her mobile turned on and her partner refused her to let me know where they were both staying. Basically I have not seen or heard from her since. When I did try to contact her or speak to my son on the phone he would be odd and say things like " I don't want to see you dad". Basically I have paid for him from the start with maintenance and sending money for uniforms or any other requirements but I have now lost all contact with her and my son.
I recently spoke to a friend who said that I have the right to fight for him but I am unsure how I can fight for him if I have no idea where he is ?
My son will be 8 now.
Hi There,
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You are able to go through court and file an order, you would normally need to attend mediation, but as you don't know where your ex lives, you wouldn't need to attempt mediation.
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You are able to apply directly to court and attach a search and find order, you would just need to give as much information as you have about her and where she used to live, and they should be able to trace her and serve her the papers.
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GTTS
It might help to get some support from Families Need Fathers Scotland, here's a link to the website where you'll find contact details of their branches in Scotland.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
If you scroll down to the bottom of the page you'll find the section for Scotland.
You could make an application for a seek and find order in the area that you knew they were living in last time you had contact, to do this you would need form C4.
All the best
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