[Solved] Statements

Hello

I was advised my my solicitor when I first started this process that statements etc should be handed as close as you can to the deadline, this doesn’t give the other side any means of counteracting.

Is this your first statement ? And why would the grandmother be involved in your matter ?

I was torn apart in my exes statement- one would think i was somewhere between Hannibal Lecter and the Krays, although my statement was very well thought out and focused on the children - not my ex. I wouldn’t give her that benefit

You may well ask your barrister to mention that your statement has been counteracted as you handed it in too early. My solicitor told me off for handing it in a day early 🙂

I’m taking it your self litigating and using a barrister by direct access?
Just try and keep your cool

Jonathan

Hiya , general rule of thumb is hand it into court on the last possible day.

Was the grandmother asked to supply a statement and why?

I am using solicitor the deadline was 21st december, they only produced theres on 3rd jan.

I am against my sons grandmother and mother.

my sons mother handed my son over to her mother behind my back an coz he has been living there for more than 12 months she has filed c100 against me.

i am up against mother and grandmother.

they live chaotic life an grandmothers adnitted using cocaine in past an had drink problems, had her alcohol tested an it shows shes still drinking but test inconclusive, no mention to cafcass of any concerns but now they state i am emotionally an physically abusive in the statements and my sons begs the grandmother not to tell me things incase i shout at him, just a load of lies as my son wants to live with me, keep mentioning i have stopped maintenance payments etc, ive sed nobody has stopped them arranging with CMS they just want my son for financial gain an keep moving him propertys. Feel like everything goes against me.

I know it's difficult but try not to worry too much about the allegations, the courts see that and worse all the time, we all get it unfortunately. In my case, I got the impression that the more allegations against me the better, because it made it all less believable. Like Jonathan wrote, just keep cool (easier said than done, I know), be pleasant to everyone at court, it will help your case.

One thing that would concern me about your case is how could the child move to live with the grandmother and you not knowing for 12 months ? Were you not in contact with the child ? That seems odd, and perhaps something you may need to clarify in court.

my ex took him to live in her mothers with her 20 miles from my home, i saw him of a weekend and was still paying csa to his mother, i was advised that while he is settled with his mother in her mothers and in school court would not look favourably on moving him, i then found out his mother had gone to camp america with my csa money i rang them an asked why i was still paying and they said i was due a refund as child benefit was signed over to his grandmother several months before,
My ex had been down as living with her mother but never staying there so when it come to it i had no leg to stand on cause she just told people she did live there, an they never made me aware, that is one of my points in court same with now they moved him again to a different location an changed him school ao i took him an told them he is living with me, only for a interim court hearing have me return him until further investigation.

its a chaotic mess he is in.

I’m in a similar situation with you Liam, I have three children and my eldest who was 9 at the time went to live with his grandmother, and that was part of the reason me and my ex fell out
And with allegations- try not to worry about them although I know that may be easier said than done, as the courts are use to people making allegations. At the end of the day, for a parent to deny access, they need a good excuse. By saying they ‘don’t like’ their ex isn’t a good enough excuse, hence why allegations are made in a lot of cases

You have ‘parental responsibility’ for your child, not your exes mother. This is something that I have struggled with knowing she has my son, and I haven’t seen him for almost two years whilst going through all this

I would speak to you solicitor about her statements being filed late because they could be thrown out and not relied on if they have not met with the date directed by the court