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I agree its totally unfair, but the mother (or the resident parent) has the upper hand on most cases, and often take advantage of this. Hope it works out ok for you, and more importantly that you and your partner get through it together ok.
I agree its totally unfair, but the mother (or the resident parent) has the upper hand on most cases, and often take advantage of this. Hope it works out ok for you, and more importantly that you and your partner get through it together ok.
yes the mothers seem to become big control freaks. the way my ex behaves, you would think she took out a CAO against me lol. i am getting closer to the point, where one day i will tell her, your making my life difficult, so sod off, i am not seeing my kids on such and such day because im not available. this woman grew up without a dad so she wouldnt give a dam any way.
Personally I feel that co parenting means parenting as you would as a couple. If they were together he would attend and child would stay with mother and mother would attend events whilst child remains in father's care?
If this was really the case, there wouldn't be a court order at all, but because they have gone to court, then the court has made a ruling that needs to be stuck to except by mutual agreement. If they can't agree to vary it, then the order is what has to be adhered to, so there is no obligation at all for her to vary from this, and the order is for him to have contact. I can't see a court would vary the order if she is sticking to it.
Briefly, I would say pick your battles.
She's agreed to swap one weekend and refused to swap the other. She isn't legally bound to swap weekends to suit social schedules and a court would not think this unreasonable.
If she breaches properly - eg similar to the Easter Holiday, then you can go for enforcement.
In the scheme of things, this is one weekend that could spiral into further issues that you probably don't want.
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