[Solved] SS, cafcass and new family

Hello there

I’m in a similar position as you are- although the case involving access to my children is still ongoing
My ex made allegations against me, although there was no real ‘evidence’ as far as police reports etc - mainly just her words

There was a fact finding hearing recently in where all 10 allegations were found ‘against’ me, and I’ve often wondered the same as you. I do agree with some aspects of the allegations- but certainly not all of them and it does seem a bit unfair really.
Cafcass (Section 7 author) were against me having contact, although social services were for (as long as I took part in a course), as that was the recommendation they’ve put forward

I’m in a new relationship as I have been for a while, and this has all been going on for over two years with the situation with my kids, and 13 hearings.
I did speak to the children’s guardian ( Cafcass) about what happens if I’m in a new relationship etc?
Well she did give me some information. She said that there may be checks carried out, for example to see if there’s been any reports from my current partner of domestic violence etc, phone calls to the police etc. And that it’s a good idea to disclose to my partner what’s happened in the past, and what allegations were made ( which I have )
I don’t live with mine, and to be honest I have no plans to so I guess that makes things easier
I’m the same as you - I don’t want them sniffing about after all of this. If I’m a danger to women and children etc then I should be in prison, it’s ridiculous really

My ex made me out to be some monster- everything’s been blown out of proportion- as it is, and social services love to expand on that.

How far did you get with your case? Was there a finding of fact hearing with allegations being found against you? It’s not the same as a conviction, but may leave a door open for social services

Hi

I wouldn't have thought so, not unless a court become involves for any reason. It would depend on the severity of the issues however.

Jonathan1122 you and me seem to be in the same boat - I'm still going for contact although this is being denied as cafcass have decided we need a fact finding and so it goes on and on and on. Last hearing I was almost allowed contact in a centre with one of the ex's family present, which I objected to as they are all against me then that was that. Ex then made up more allegations and here we go again. The allegations and what cafcass say are two different things tbh - ex says I'm one thing, cafcass have decided I'm another but both paint very evil picture of me, which is so wrong. Ex even admitted no domestic violence but cafcass want me to go on a dv course! Why do these mothers want exclusive rights to children and why do ss and cafcass support them? I've done absolutely nothing much like 99% of the blokes going through this. I think I'll just change my name if I have another family.

Unfortunately, for every false allegation in the family court, there is a genuine one and therefore Cafcass and the court have a duty to investigate. The cases we tend to hear about on here are the more extreme end of the spectrum. For the most part the system works well or parents manage to communicate.

I would say if you're being offered any sort of contact or being asked to attend a course.....jump through the hoops and prove everyone wrong & get to see your child at the same time.

You can always ask for one to one supervised contact and the supervisor will provide a report. That way, it doesn't have to be someone from her family.