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My son was born in scotland 2004 so i did not have PR. we registered him together and my name is on the birth certificate. His mother registered him at school, doctors etc using her maiden name as the surname instead of mine. I complained about this to her only to be told i have no rights.... this has been on going for a while now. I fell out with her last year saying when he is old enough to make up his own mind he will change it back and probably want to live with me, on which she raised a residence order against me. I inturn applied for PR parental responsabilities which was granted.
My question is basically this, can i go to school now and get his name changed back. He has allways known his real surname and says he has told everyone at school. He recently made me a fathers day card and signed it using his real surname, upon which his mother scored it out and told him he was never to use it again, this upset both him and myself. He has asked me if i can go to the school and have it changed now that i have equal parental rights ?
As your name is on the birth certificate, this is his legal name. If Mum has used another name I think you've really got to decide if this is one you want to fight. If your son knows his real name & likes it, when he's old enough he will probably choose to use it & can ask for school etc to change it himself. I would just be careful in case fighting this at the moment might make the Mum consider legally changing his surname to hers. What have you tried to do already in having his name changed?
Hi springchicken thanks for replying
I think she might have allready changed it legally, possibly changed the birth certificate too. Im going to get another copy next time im in town to find out.
I visited my sons school yesterday and spoke to the head teacher telling her the whole story and that my son was requesting that a come and speak to her regarding changing his name back. She was very supportive of my plight and said keep doing what im doing and even take my son with me to the solicitor if i think it would help.
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