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Some advice please.
 
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Some advice please.

 
(@macmyers)
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Hello everyone.  I've been lurking and reading this forum for over a year now and have picked up some excellent advice.

I think I should share my experience thus far as it maybe helpful to others and I do still need some advice and help. 

My horror story is as follows and I'll try to keep it as short and as blunt as possible.

5 kids with my ex partner, she has mental health problems.  She met and ran off with another woman who also has mental health issues (BPD) and took my youngest 4 with her ( oldest chose to stay with me, other 4 had no choice). Despite trying every route possible I didn't get to see or speak to my kids for 6 months ( currently seeing them in contact center) 

I got the non molestation thrown out ( Mckenzie friend won the day for me)  I managed to get legal aid against all odds but had to jump through hoops for that.  6 hearings so far, 6 diffrent judges.  

My children have been blatantly alienated against me and her own lies are tripping her up.  Have a fact finding next month, parental alienation is on my Scott's schedule. Her and legal team wanted that removed but the judge wasn't having a bit of it and said that my allegation of parental alienation is going to be taken seriously.   The Guardian and children's solicitor seem to understand what is going on and the next course of action regarding contact with the children depends on the outcome of the fact finding.

I've been told ( not getting hopes up) that if findings go against me they will have to sit down and think of the next way forward, its the same if no findings are made against me.  HOWEVER, if its proved that I'm a victim of parental alienation then we have to go down a different track/route altogether.   

This has been hardest year of my life, my beautiful children have and are being mentally and emotionally abused, they have also been neglected.  It is such a mess but I won't give up.. if I can help or support any other parent going through this nightmare then of course I will...I know what I have to do as in presenting my evidence of the alienation but any little nugget of advice to help my situation will be hugely appreciated.   

Sorry for the long 1st post.

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Topic starter Posted : 15/12/2021 1:47 pm
(@dadmod2)
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hi,

hope your doing well. there is a lot of information here which could be useful to you:

https://www.myonrecord.com/how-to-guides/how-to-prove-parental-alienation/

 

https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/divorce-and-separation/what-to-expect-from-cafcass/parental-alienation/

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Posted : 15/12/2021 3:03 pm
(@macmyers)
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@bill337 

Thank you Bill, you're a gentleman and a legend. 

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Topic starter Posted : 15/12/2021 3:35 pm
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