Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Have had a break from this situation as if I don't the lines begin to blur, as outside from this I lead a busy & positive life.
Just want you guys to know that I appreciate your help sincerely it means alot from the bottom of my heart.
I'm 2 weeks away now from standing in court, pretty nerve racking stuff. I've got half way through the Lucy Reed book, puts me at ease slightly. These 2 weeks I will be building strength to make sure im on my wits in this process.
Still haven't wrote to the solicitor but have spoke with the welfare officer at the school and it sounds as though im in for a slightly bumpy ride as alot of things have been twisted while ive been out of the frame and I now look like abit of a terrible person. Hopefully this will be a different scenario when we are in the court.
Time for me to get studying
It's good to step back and recharge and something that we recommend to help get a better perspective.
I've responded to your PM.
Hi - sounds like Mojo is giving you support at the min.
Just remember, keep it simple for now. The level of contact you are seeking, is relatively bog-standard, and while your ex can make all the allegations she likes - the truth usually outs in the end and an order will be made.
Hopefully the court can get her to agree to move forward, and we are all here to support you if you need it.
Good luck
Thank you.
Where should I start preparing? In the Lucy Reed book she mentions 'evidence' alot and cross examining witnesses. I'm not sure this would apply to my case would it? or am I just waiting on the directions hearing to find out
You haven't reached that point in the proceedings yet, cross examination and filing evidence comes later. Just prepare a brief 2 page position statement to take with you for the first hearing.
The directions hearing is exactly that, the court can order further reports, ask the parties for statements, even order mediation.
All the best
Don't start worrying about cross examination or evidence yet. As Mojo says and I have said previously, for now, focus on preparing a brief 2 page Position Statement and the court will advise the next steps at the FHDRA
Good luck
I've put together a position statement and forwarded it to you mojo I hope thats ok, or is there somewhere else I can get a 2nd opinion? as fresh eyes always help.
Only a couple of days away so I hope to have everything tidy and doing last minute prep now
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.