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Our case is quite complicated, basically in a nut shell, my partner only got access to his boys after having to go to court and pointing out mums lies during mediation, this usually made her back down a little and give some access.
However mum tries to constantly have the children assessed for issues including Aspergers, food intolerances etc etc she has no wish to work and so needs two 'poor wee children' so she can be a carer. She has joined all sorts of carers groups etc and is befriending all types of people in these fields. Social Services are now all over this....social workers have been out and they are concerned that the children are being held back for the mothers benefit, they are due to come and speak to me later this week too.
In the meantime the mother has decided to go with the EXACT letter of the court order, no early pick ups, any time we want the boys extra (its the eldests birthday soon and fathers day) we have to bargain with the time we already have and switch days etc.
healthwise we had a doctor FINALLY admit there are no food intolerances but now mum is going with a 'specialist ' to see what care or treatment the child might need due to the exceptional 'picky eating' (She restricted his diet so so much due to 'food intolerances'). It never [censored] stops.
It seems now we have a good case built up to go for at least 50/50 access.
Has anyone had any experience of what social services can do in the court?
Has anyone else any positive stories of social services? We will be gutted if they at the end of this just say 'yeah mum is out of order but we will have a chat to her'.....so far it seems they are taking it seriously and there is a meeting next week with some of the professional people who deal with the children through school and health.
This is a contentious subject, but read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%BCnchausen_syndrome_by_proxy
Perhaps you could persuade social services that your partner should be the one to have residence. Keep on top of SS, and cooperate with them, you want them on your side as much as possible.
this is exactly what we are looking at but now it is termed as FII (fabricated or induced illness).....we so far have SS right on side but Childrens Services seem to be [censored] footing around wanting us to go to 'family fun days' etc
We shall see what happens tomorrow, I have SS coming to visit while I am there and no kids around so we can 'talk frankly'
Ah, you're already ahead of me then π Let us know how it goes.
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