[Solved] Social Services and Police ! Mortified

Hello Ady . that is totally shocking . im not surprised though . A bitter ex or partner can make these claims it is disgusting . I feel for you , my situation is even more definete in my mind . i wouldnt trust my ex as far as i could throw her and i couldnt throw her far the size of her ! Joking apart this country is far to concerned about listening and acting on verbal accusations made by twisted mothers who wouldnt know the truth if their life depended on it ! In my opinion its no wonder kids are messed up and out of control these days , broken britain , where women bad ones can say and do what they like , us good dads get slaughtered along the way ! i know i wont be seeing or making any effort to see my little girls again in life , if when they get older they locate me ? i will tell them what a peice of work their mother is and that i had kids with the wrong person, they wont like it but thats life . I accept i will never have a relationship with my 2 girls . It is self preservation on my part . All i would say to you is keep away from your ex for a bit . I hope she behaves herself in the future and lets you have a stress free relationship with your child . Good luck .

I don't agree that you should leave it as it will be held against you I'm sure. I'd look at mediation to see if you can come to an agreement- it may be worth suggesting a contact centre -not ideal considering the contact you're used to but much better than nothing.

Hi there 🙂

My advice to you is dont panic, if the police or SS thought there was any weight at all behind the allegation, they would be putting steps in place to inhibit unsupervised contact....has your ex given any indication that they are advising her against further unsupervised contact etc? I'm sure if they had she would be letting you know in no uncertain terms.

If you stay away it might look as if you have something to hide...I think you should give some serious thought to trying mediation, I gave you a link in your previous thread....I think you need to talk things through, more so than ever now. You dont have any defined times and days specified in your agreement and that would be a good idea.

In the meantime I would contact her as normal before the weekend, try not to get upset or react if she starts to rant at you, just say as calmly as you can that the authorities are satisfied that nothing happened, because it didnt and you want to see your children as usual. If she refuses you contact then perhaps she might agree if your suggest your parents will supervise at their house. I would suggest anyway that you try and make sure that theres someone with you when youre with your daughter, just for the time being, until the dust settles.

...Only seconds in it actd!...it good to see we are in accord....Good luck with it Ady. 🙂

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just a quick update.

I got a letter from her solicitor on Sat 24th Nov. Saying.

Due to the allergations of me touching my daughter ect, she has suspended contact.ya di ya. The solicitor has also confirmed that they have done a referal to the contact center. Im glad of that because, at one point, i might be able to see my kids again.

The letter also stated for me not to contacther, or go to the property (which i pay the mortgage on!!!) or they will file for 'relevant protecton from the courts' - Ironic really, seing as i only see the wench on a sat and sun when im dropping off and picking kids up!!!

Ive decided the gloves are off - and she is not getting the satisfacton of me not seing my children. Id already spoken to citizzens advice, relate and got the number of the manager of a local contact center. I was in the process of doing the self referal forms!

Im keeping a file now with every single piece of info, for the kids sakes.

On a lighter note, my partner is so supportive and its braught my family alot closer together in respect of whats happened. a silver lining perhaps..........

Hi, what a nasty spiteful beast, this is one of my fears for my son, his ex is so controlling and because she is about to loose the control im dreading the fall out. I am with my son on his visits and I take her to the toilet and I take her into the ladies changing room when we go swimming. What a sad world we live in, I know we have to be careful, but I didnt expect to have to watch our backs.
Keep contact going in the centre but take the evil cow to court

hi andy

i know what it is like to be put in a situation where you have been falsey accussed of the most dreadfull crimes out there, i will say you was lucky that no further action was taken against you because in this day and age now, you no longer require evidence to gain a conviction of a sexual offence according the the reform act of 2003, but because false allegations are now being noticed by the police and the courts and CPS and goverment, it has also came about that you can also bring charges on her for either wasting police time, or perveting the course of justice which both do carry a sentence of up to 18 months prisonment..

also in regards to you have contatc with your daughter, i will strongley recommend you keep it up as much as poss, because if you did ever have to take it courtsthey will hold that against you unless you dont have good reason not seeing your daughter, also have someone else for time being to do pick up's and drop off's for you which will also save any further type of allegations made against you, always make sure there is someone with you when you have the time with your daughter, and keep a record of any form of contact you have with your daughter, also any other forms of contact you have with your ex weather it be text, calls, or in person

all he best with things