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Hi I recently put a post about my ex and how she had slept with someonebehind my back without me knowing.
We had an argument the weekend and I got very angry. I hit her light which broke and pushed my ex out of the way as she was in my face screaming at me. I’m ashamed of what I’ve done. I have never hit her and never would I took my anger out on other things. I really am ashamed.
She ended up calling the police which she has done several times before honestly for no reason just to try and get me into trouble during past court cases. Nothing ever happened with the police as I never did anything!
However yesterday my ex sister told me that when the police went, they have said they have referred it to social services due to the amount of times she’s called them.
What will happen now ?!? I’m terrified. I do stress I’ve never hit my ex! How long will it be until they are in touch ? Should I be worried about this or will they see it for what it is and that we are both great parents ?
Thanks so much
Hi there
You haven’t made things very easy for yourself, it’s difficult for you, there’s been a lot of highly charged emotions in the mix.
Social Services are likely to speak to your ex and may advise her to suspend contact with your child and seek legal advice. They might not even contact you, it’s impossible to predict how it will pan out to be honest... you’ll just have to wait and see.
Worse case scenario she will be advised to take out a non molestation order out against you and that will complicate contact with your child. I’m sure this isn’t what you want to hear, but better to be prepared.
Best case, things will settle down, your ex will accept that you are upset by recent events and her infidelity and you can continue to see your child. If that happens think seriously about puttting some space between you for now, perhaps arrange for a trusted third party to communicate with your ex and help with handovers.
Best of luck
Thanks a lot for your reply. I’ve been speaking to her sister and she’s said she’s going to be stopping contact until it’s sorted with the social. Although she has insisted she’s going to say I’m a Good dad just me and the ex can’t be together.
Would it be worth sending off a mediation letter to get this into court ?
Thanks again
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