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Just received back today after my telephone interview before Christmas. It was not nice to read, lots of allegations made by my ex and suggestions that the kids are being brought to harm. They advise a Section 7 but I expected this anyway, so should be a brief day in court next week for the first hearing. I am fearing the worst here. If the kids state what she is telling CAFCASS and make out they are too frightened to see me, then I am unlikely to get anywhere surely? Truth is, I feel they are scared of mum and thinking they are scoring points with her by hurting me in the process. Is this when people decide to just give up? I don't know if I can and want to make sure the truth comes out eventually
Hi there
I’ve had a quick look back at your previous posts, I think you were prepared for there to be an S7 report, due to the allegations, which in my opinion are fairly weak.
If there are allegations being made, CAFCASS will include them in the report, and it’s not unusual for that to lead to a recommendation for a more detailed report.
The authorities have to take all allegations seriously, as the children’s safety is their only concern, but on a personal level, it can be upsetting to have to contemplate that. Once you’ve had time to get you’re head round it, I’m sure there won’t be any question of giving up.
Are the children old enough to give their wishes and feelings? If they are spoken to as part of the S7, that could happen in school, or at their offices, or sometimes in their own home.
Try not to think too far ahead, concentrate on dealing with each step and putting the best case forward.
Staying calm and reasoned will help you to maintain a more professional attitude and will work for you if you can manage it. As a loving father a certain amount of emotion is fine, just keep A balance.
Apart from recommending an S7, were there any other recommendations made?
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