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Where to start, split up nearly four years ago. Work away from home on a 2 on 3 off rota. The first 2 years I had boys staying with me for 3 weeks on every leave. Ex wanted more money and this went up to £300 per month. There fore I only have boys stay aprrox 170 nights per year. I pay for various things including trainers, clothes, football fees, contact lenses etc. No of which seem to matter to my ex. So though all was well until i started seeing somebody eventually moved in together, nice new house with her kids and still have my boys staying with me when I am at home. Now I am being asked to pay over £400 per month. Fair enough I worked loads of over time last year to pay for house etc but all went into house.
I tried the CSA calculator which actually came out at £316 a month. Thats if I included my new partners kids, obviously more if not. This year no overtime at present and payments would be a lot less using CSA calculator. So my question is how would the CSA work out my payments i.e. by last years wages or this years. And should i be paying all these extras etc. I dont want to be pushed into a position where my ex gets more money I have to stop the extras and kids think I am the one that is being tight. Would not be so bad but new partner only gets £20 per month as her ex is useless and does not work.
A bit of advice would be nice.
I dont suppose the CSA take into consideration the 220 nights for the first 2 years then 190 nights the following year. Never missed a payment etc.
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