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Hey guys,
id like to know if there is anything that I can do so that my 4 yr old son can stay with me and my girlfriend on weekends 🙁
Hi There,
This is a difficult one to answer without a little more detail.
But I would say that as long as there has been nothing in history to cause concern then there should be no reason for you not to have overnight contact.
I would start with trying to gain an agreement through mediation to see if you cn get things sorted that way, then you have the option of court after that if you don't get anywhere.
If you could give a bit more info we would be able to advise further.
GTTS
Hi - I went through [censored] trying to see (and parent) my three kids (at the time 6, 8 & 12) for years, including going to court asking for a consent order to enshrine the kids rights to see me their Dad, and my right to see them. (Aside : involved CAFCASS etc, for which I felt aggrieved having to do as this meant the kids had to be interviewed/upset in the process) - but things were that bad an attempt had to be made. Bottom line though - Having been to court and secured and order for "access", within a year she was back to all her old tricks, not being there for prearranged pickups, rearranging at last moment, organising other evens at our agreed times, not allowing me/paternal grandparents to take them on prearranged booked and paid for holidays, not allowing the kids to come for alternate xmases etc, etc, etc. In essence she has done everything she can to minimise/emasculate my involvement with our children. As a work from home, involved father I have to say that the legal route is stacked against paternal involvement (the same is true of divorce courts) - but I had hoped that the court process over access would have been a wake up call, but it actually achieved very little.
Nett: Under the UK's biased legal/tax/benefit system as a concerned Dad you end up just having to hang in there and put up with whatever sh*t gets dished in your direction by the mother (if she is that way inclined) until the kids are old enough to begin to make their own decisions. Problem is they also accumulate a very distorted picture of what 'true' circumstances actually are/were. My eldest is now 18 and while my relationship with my kids who I dearly love has been damaged, they are of an age now where they are beginning to emerge from under her emotional blackmail umbrella.
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