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My ex-partner hasn't put me on the birth certificate and the baby is young, three months old.
I have recently been to a solicitor and the costs are eye watering, does anyone know if she is likely to get legal aid? Although, she has recently said the is happy to go to court...
I'm strongly considering giving up my fight as I have been unable to see my kid under my own terms, she will only allow me to spend an hour or so with him every few days.
Hi there
I’m sorry you’re still having difficulties, but as I think I said previously, your child is still very young and I would try and be patient.
Legal aid for family matters is no longer available, unless there has been provable domestic abuse. Some women will make false allegations to qualify for It, so be careful, she could claim you are harassing her and take an injunction out on you quite easily.
I’d give it another couple of months and if things don’t improve, you can start the process with mediation, this can be helpful in sorting issues out, but if not, the mediator would sign the form for you to apply to court for Parental Responsibility and an order for regular contact with your child.
It doesn’t have to be done with a solicitor, many dads here do it quite successfully without one and we would be able to advise and support you along the way. Don’t give up!
All the best
Yes, so I think I'm not going to rush into court straight away as the solicitor bills are immense.
I'm going to take a chill pill, relax myself and give her what she wants for the next few months i.e look after the baby alone.
I've scheduled a mediator and will spend some time with that process to start with.
I think that’s sensible trsisko. I’ll give you a link to the CAFCASS Parenting Plan, if you’re intending to,try mediation it might be a good idea to try and use the parenting plan as a way of getting some agreement in place as your child gets older.
All the best
Here are some links to the new and improved parenting plan put together by CAFCASS, even if you are unable to agree the plan together, at least it will give you a better idea of what to negotiate when using mediation.
www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parenting-plan.aspx
And of course if you need help creating a parenting plan use the DAD.Info site here
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