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with weeks away from my final hearing, im trying to finish up my final position statement. in S7 cafcass have recommended the default every other weekend. no other concerns aprt from both parents they say have conflict.
now if i ask for more access, ideally i want shared 50 50 care, i have even moved closer to achieve this. any downsides of me going for 50/50? will it get flat refused and i could get something close? or should i just ask for a extra day or 2?
what im getting at is if i ask for equal shared care, will it just get turned down by the DJ judge and i end up with the default as suggested by cafcass. or could the judge if not in agreement give me something close to 50/50. whats downside for me going for 50/50 i got nothing to loose right?
hi,
if there is no mention of 50/50 in the S7 recommendations, then I would be a bit cautious. you can still ask, but highly likely they will not give it. you can argue for more time as you live close to the kids. so can ask for things like thu-mon every other week, or fri-mon. mid-week overnights. if you keep insisting on 50/50 then you may come across as stubborn. have they asked you to write a response to the S7? if so you should put all your requests, concerns in writing.
Are they offering you friday to sunday ( 2 nights ) or friday to monday ( 3 nights ) every other weekend.
You are likely to end up with every other weekend . 50/50 will be a 100 % no.. i would be trying to get some form of midweek contact though , even if its play and supper once a week
I will be writing a response to the s7 in my final statement. One of the things cafcass pointed out was that the kid was told by the mother what to say to them, like she doesn't like staying with me and that I'm mean. When cafcass asked the kid how do u know this she said mummy had told her. So I'm going to argue I should have shared care before my kids are brainwashed further and I'm isolated more. Can this work? It's a true fact she's manipulating kids against me. My kid also said she wants to live with mummy even without cafcass asking them the question.
They said they recommend Fri to Monday every other weekend if i live close by. Else Fri to Sun.
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