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I have been paying my regular CSA payments, without fail, by deduction of earnings through my employer. Last December just before Christmas, the almost doubled the money they were taking off me from around £180 per month to £315+ from a monthly wage of about £1000 gross, saying that there had been shortfalls in my payments and they were putting it up in order to reclaim this money.
Now my CSA deduction is shown on every wage slip I have from where I work and according to every single pay slip I have, the full agreed amount was taken from me, every month, without fail. I have been trying now for almost 12 months to get just a simple explanation from them and a break down in writing of where these short falls occurred and the amounts as I have paid every penny without fail according to all records I have, but they seem totally unable or unwilling to even provide me with this.
As such, I have no quality of life. I cannot afford anything other than my basic bills (which I have been seriously struggling with lately, putting extra strain on my partner and our relationship), I am in so much debt through unpaid bills and loans I have built up in order to just get by and I definitely cannot afford to even by my children a Christmas present this year. It is seriously affecting my relationships at home and at work and its having a detrimental effect on my health, as I’m a type 1 diabetic and struggle with stress anyway (the last few years have been really hard) and I’ve been spending time in and out of hospital lately and as such missing work and pay.
Please can someone help as I’m pretty much at the end of my tether now. I will have to quit work in the new year if things don’t change but I want to work and be able to provide for my children.
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