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Hi
I have been going through a separation for the last 6months and it has been with my ex now stopping all contact to my 2 daughters. We are currently going through the courts which are taking an absolute age to get any kind of direction or decision on contact. I have been accused of everything all of which have been found out to be false. I am now trying to be more positive as I am speaking with CAFCASS who have said a parenting course of some kind might help me understand and see how my children are feeling. I want to make sure that when I do get to see my daughters that I do everything right for them and put them first regardless of the mothers behaviours.
If there is something out there i would very much like to attend.
Thanks
Hi there
I think the course That CAFCASS are talking about is called the SPIP (Separated Parents Information Programme). This can be ordered by the court and then CAFCASS can organise it, although there may be a waiting list.
The court process can be a very slow one, but it sounds like you have go the worse of it sorted, allegations out of the way and the next step should be some form of contact...this may start in a contact centre, as it's been a while since you've seen them. This shouldn't be for too long though, it might be helpful to show the court that you are thoughtful to your children's needs and prepare a schedule of increasing contact, depending on the ages of your children.
Best of luck
My ex and I were ordered to do a SPIPS course which was pretty good to be fair and then CAFCASS also recommended that I should do another parenting course because I hadn't seen my daughter for a while and my EX accused me of not being able to look after a baby (utter rubbish of course) but I still attended, it was called the parenting puzzle and had nothing to do with raising a baby but on reflection it was very good and the courts seen me in a better light as I had done it so you could be pro active and suggest you go on it π
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