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Hi All,
Long story short, I separated from my wife just over a year ago which wasn't an amicable separation.
I pay maintenance through csa for my 6 year old daughter, no real issues there.
My ex now lives with her boyfriend, but refuses to speak to me and basically forced me to go through her boyfriend for access. I have to say there have been no issues gaining access at anytime to my daughter, until now.
I have fallen out with my ex's boyfriend over a very petty thing, but the outcome is that he is now refusing to liase with me for access and she simply wont have a thing to do with me.
If I wanted to see my daughter, is there anything that says I cant legally collect her from school without her mothers consent?
can I just turn up on their doorstep and demand to see my daughter?
Ive read some of the government guidlines but its all very wishy washy!
Thanks
hi fishfire and welcome on here.
whatever the legalposition, I really wouldn't even consider going down that route, you could end up in a whole argument with the police involved, and that's really something you don't want your ex to bring up should you end up in court to get a contact order.
If you really think you can't get anywhere, then I would write to your ex politely asking if there is any way that you can communicate regarding contacgt with your daughter, or if not then you'd like to go to mediation in an attempt to avoid having to go to court for a contact order. Keep it civil, and make sure that you keep a record of all conversations from now on, as you may need this later on.
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