[Solved] Self representing in a non molestation caze

...because of the PSO you must tread very carefully, if it states that you must not harass or remove your children and you continue to try and contact them this could be seen as a breach of the order and it will add to the problems you are currently experiencing.

From what you've said it sounds like you have had some form of contact with your children, would that be by phone? If you are being given telephone contact try and keep it light and steer clear of involving them in discussions about contact or their mother, just give them lots of reassurance that you miss them and you are trying really hard to get things sorted out. They are far too young to be involved in the ins and outs of the problems between you and your ex, it will only cause them distress and it may be used against you. From this point on you must be seen to be doing everything right and putting the well being of your children first, regardless of how painful that may be.

I suggest you contact her solicitor in writing and politely request that supervised contact be commenced as soon as possible, perhaps look into contact centre services near to where your children are living and include information about locations and availability of places, sometimes there are waiting lists for contact centre places. Here's a link to the Contact Centres website

www.naccc.org.uk

As far as the wrong information the police are giving you, again contact them and tell them what happened and ask them to look again, if you attended at your GP or A&E it will be in your medical records.

I completely understand your frustration but you really need to try and keep calm and reasoned, if you tick all the boxes and do everything by the book the outcomes will be better for you. We will do all we can to advise and support you.

I've decided that tonight is the night I cannot take any more I cannot listen listen to my kids crying on the phone

Hey MB...I'm here to talk, I understand how you feel, lets talk about it please. I've emailed you and I'm right here waiting for you to let me know you're ok.

Hi MB,

I can understand how your feeling at the moment many of us have had similar thoughts, you need to be strong.

Just to start even if you don't want to talk, could you please let one of us know you are OK, a quick post here, a private message or reply to Mojo's email .

We are concerned for you.

GTTS

All sorry for the above rant im just finding this all hard to deal with.

I have not seen my children for 3 weeks now and as i got a flat as somewhere they could spend time with me feels like a cell at the moment.

I am trying to formulate a plan of action but i dont know where i start i think for now i will get a solicitor to represent me in the non molestation case.

Do you get told of the evidence that the other party has prior to the case or is it just the witness statement?

Could i apply for a child arrangement order now before this case goes to court so i could see my children.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated

Hi

Glad you're back on here, and no need to apologise at all.

I don't knoe the procedures for non-mol, so keep checking here as others are more familiar with this and can hopefully advise you. However, the fact that you are now thinking of formulating a plan is actually a good start, as it means you are starting to look ahead and to try to find a solution, so keep on with this. There will be setbacks, that's just the situation as it is, but keep looking forward and you will make progress - there are a number of success stories on here, some from situations that seemed pretty hopeless to start off with, so it can be done.

I think there it's possible to apply for the CAO now, but again, others on here with more experience of this will hopefully advise you.

Keep talking on here, and we'll do our best to advise and support you.

Hi MB

I think whatever she is relying on in court would be covered in her witness statement.

As far as applying for a CAO, it's better to wait until the non mol is concluded, if you apply before it's over the judge is likely to adjourn it anyway as the outcome will have a bearing on how the Contact case progresses.

It's ok to rant, sometimes we just need to get it out.....I hope you are feeling a little better, taking it one day at a time helps...your little boy needs you in his life and we will do all we can to help you find a way back to him.

All the best

Hi MB

Mojo and I have had a chat this morning about your situation. We think you could consider putting in a C100 over the next week or two so that your first CAO hearing would fall a couple of weeks after the non mol hearing. If you wait until after to submit the forms, you could be looking at quite a long wait. Once the court have received a C100, it takes about a 7-10 days for them to list a hearing and then you wait about 6-8 weeks for it to take place.

It would cut down the waiting time to start the process and might have the added benefit of giving you something to focus on now, and help you to feel like you're doing something to progress the situation?

I hope you're feeling a bit better and remember we are all here to support you.