[Solved] Self representing in a non molestation caze

Hi There,
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I have never been through this so wouldn't know where to start either, I know some members here have so hopefully they will give you some pointers soon so keep checking back.
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GTTS

Hi there

I've moved your thread into the legal eagle section.

If you are intending to self represent then you should put a short position statement together, if you have any evidence to back up what you are saying happened then you can attach that to the statement.

If you can show that she has made false allegations then you have a chance, if the judge feels that you are both responsible then you may both be asked to take an undertaking. If you are asked to take an undertaking without her allegations being proven, you can request that you will take it without accepting the allegations against you.

If the NMO stands, ask for arrangements to be stated in the order that allow you to contact her about the children.

All the best.

...just to say if you're considering using a McKenzie Friend please be very careful as they are an unregulated body at the moment and whilst there are some very good MFs there are also some very bad ones.... If you are thinking about this you can ask any of the Moderators for recommendations and we will be happy to help.

She has stated that i was violent and abusive to her.

She was violent towards me throughout the relationship and i did snap once not long after my mother died.She has also got a PSO on me.

Im considering self representing but i need to know what steps i need to take in order for this to work as i don't have a clue what to do.Also if i did get legal representation how much will it roughly cost me?

What is a mckenzie friend and what do they do?

The reasons behind her doing this is because i left on the May day just gone because the relationship had became toxic and it was not fair on the children.She has since made my life and kids life difficult.

I am starting to wish i stayed as this is seriously killing me

Hi

I understand it is a very difficult time for you and you are bound to feel very lost.

If you contact your local CAB they can provide you with details of local solicitors who can offer you a free 30 minute consultation. It might be worth speaking to at least a couple of these to get some solid legal advice in addition to the advice you have received here.

You also have the option of appointing a direct access barrister, often these can be almost as cost effective as a McKenzie Friend and they can speak on your behalf. You appoint them yourself as opposed to indirectly through a solicitor.

Do be careful if you are going appoint a McKenzie Friend, if you are contacted by any members offering services please inform one of the moderators. If you would like recommendations, you can private message one of the moderators and depending on your area we might be able to point you in the right direction.

It is easier to self rep than you think and we can support you through that process if you choose to do that.

Good luck

What is a mckenzie friend and what do they do?

I think your question about McKenzie Friends has been answered....All I'll say is that it can be very difficult to do due diligence, glossy websites with lists of anonymous testimonials can be deceiving and give the impression that you have found one of the good ones...and that may be the case, but theres no way of knowing that until you've committed your funds and theres no going back! Sometimes you can end up paying hundreds to an unqualified MF with very little success....it's a bit of a minefield and that's why we don't allow commercial MFs to advertise their services on this site, although they do try!

If you have someone trawling forums such as this one then its likely that they are struggling to find clients.... A good MF generally doesn't need to do that as they have a network of contacts and recommendations from satisfied clients that serves them well.... and personally I think there's something immoral about looking for clients amongst people that may be vulnerable and at a very low ebb, as many of our members are when they first arrive here.

She has stated that i was violent and abusive to her.

She was violent towards me throughout the relationship and i did snap once not long after my mother died.She has also got a PSO on me.

Im considering self representing but i need to know what steps i need to take in order for this to work as i don't have a clue what to do.Also if i did get legal representation how much will it roughly cost me?

I'm sorry to hear that you have recently lost your Mum, things must be really tough for you at the moment and you have my deepest sympathy.

Its awful that you have been a victim of domestic violence and although its not really spoken about it happens to men too, but quite often they keep quiet about it and suffer in silence. It's hardly surprising that in your grief you finally lashed out at the one person that you should have been able to turn to for support.

Do you have any proof that she was violent towards you, were the police ever informed, or any other agencies involved with you as a family? If this is the case it will be a matter of record that you can refer to in court.

It's a good idea to write a brief statement to give to the court to tell them a bit about your background together, what happened and any proof you have that can back up what you are saying happened. If you have any texts you can provide screenshots, or transcribe them and attach them to your statement. If the police were ever called because of the violence she used against you, mention that too. .

If you are ok talking about it, what was she awarded a PSO for?

There are templates you can use for your statement which you may find useful, I'll get a link for you. If when you have finished your statement you would like one of us to read through it then contact us via PM and we will be happy to do that. If you have anything that you would rather not discuss on open forum, any of the Moderators will be happy to talk to you in private.

All the best

I have contacted the police about a call I made when she split my eye open and I have received an email today that they state I was the suspect.!!!!!

It was me who [censored] called them and they went to see her the next day how does that [censored] work out!!!!!

I was hoping to have my kids this weekend but my son lied to me saying they could come as he really wanted to see me so I've been telling my 4 and 5 year olds that I'm really looking forward to seeing them.

I bet this will be a stick to hit me with in court!!!!!

I give up I cannot take much more.

She has since told my son that her solicitor will be in contact with me regarding supervised visits.

The PSO states that i not not allowed to harrass or remove my children from her care.

This is just so wrong why is it women are always seen as the victims!!!!!