[Solved] Seeking unsupervised contact queries

Hi, I think for supervised contact the court has to direct this and appoint a contact centre.. You might need to take it to court and make a residence application, the suggestion alone may be enough to make her think twice.

Ok thanks. Unfortunately i doubt that will put her off as she has no money worries and can bank roll this for years on end if need be.

I on the other hand don't and am relying on the courts agreeing what i am asking for is more than reasonable

Hi there

Who would be supervising the contact visits? I can understand why you wouldn't want it to be at your ex's home, but perhaps you could suggest a couple of supervised contacts at a family members home, just to put her mind at rest. It's always better to find solutions between yourselves if at all possible. If the split is fairly recent then emotions will be running high so a softly, softly approach might be the way to go, just until things settle.

If no agreement can be reached then the accepted first step in situations like this is mediation. Court action cannot be initiated until mediation has been attempted anyway. If mediation is unsuccessful then the mediator will sign off the application forms that will enable you to apply for a Child Arrangements Order for regular contact. Here's a link

www.nfm.org.uk

Best of luck.

Hi, she said she will meet us at a softplay or similar and she will keep her distance this to me is still unacceptable as i shouldn't have to be supervised with my child. I don't think im being stubborn on this point...I just think its her control issues at play rather than whats best for the child.

We will never find a solution between us as we kind of went through it before and this time its final. so i know what she is like she wont give in unfortunately

Whilst you can make a situation worse by pandering to what seems like a ridiculous request, as NJ has said, it might be worth it just to move things along for now. Your stance on overnights is sensible and you obviously have the best interests of the child at heart. Perhaps you could set up mediation and in the mean time, comply with the request just so that your child doesn't miss out on contact with you in the short term?

Even if you know she won't attend or agree in mediation, you still have to go through this process before being allowed to apply to the courts.

yes i am going to look into it once i have responded to her legal notice (she moves quick) theres some drivel on there trying to mske me out to be a bad person so im going to have to avoid getting bogged down in a slanging match and just deal with the main point