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Hello everyone,
I have a section 7 meeting in the not so distant future. I’ve been advised by my solicitor they will not look at me favourably and without bias because I’m a male and in their eyes I’m an abuser. (This has all been disproven)
My ex had claimed historic controlling behaviour, this has been proven by two police reports this didn’t take place. Her accusations were made so she could claim legal aid. As she stopped me seeing the children so I filed to the courts.
Going forward my children’s welfare is what my priority is, as it’s always been. I have not seen my children since April and I believe our children have a right to spend time with both parents.
My question is, what do I expect in this meeting? Are they there to trip me up? Any information greatly appreciated
thanks
@harrisonbirks, I would suggest, as you rightly said, that your children's welfare is your priority. The golden rule is, no matter how tempting or annoyed the situation may be, as you said you have not seen your children since April; never, bad mouth or say anything negative about your ex. Focus on your children and how you and you children enjoy spending time together, activities, etc.
Not sure how old your children are, if you are not registered with their school, make sure you do this before your appointment with CAFCASS and be on your children's school priority contact list. It is important you receive their school report, attend parent's consultation, take them to their school, sport activities and other social and domestic appointments. So evidencing you are involved in your children's live; though, I am aware you said you have not seen them since April.
Also, if possible, go on CAFCASS website, download and complete their parenting/shared care plan; so you can share this with CAFCASS officer showing that you have plan and well prepared for your children; considering you made application to Court for shared care arrangement.
I wish you all the best and hope you are able to see your children soon - if I remember anything useful, I will message you again.
@bob49papa thank you for the reply. A bit more context.
I have completed 3 Parenting plans before I filled court proceedings and visited a solicitor 5 months prior to contact being stopped as I feared she would stop me seeing the children, threats were made by her, canceling my time etc.
There has been many allegations made to the police, my employment etc. But as mentioned all been proven to be false.
I will keep my focus all about the children. They are 2 and 4. I’m on the school and nursery lists and I have regular updates from them via the school/ nursery apps. (Class dojo/ MyFamily)
The last court session my ex completely back tracked after robust advice from her barrister (at the very last moment). I can only assume it was my response to her statement with accompanying evidence that changed the outcome here.
I will of course be respectful at all times and will make it about our children.
The angle my ex is using now- Is my shift pattern. Shes now saying my days off aren’t consistent…. This shouldn’t be an issue as there are plenty of dads who work shifts etc.
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