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Hi,
In the middle of January my daughter bruised herself whilst throwing a tantrum. I explained to her mum at drop-off about the incident and she said don't worry she’s done it before. 3 days later I get a phone call from the police to come in for a voluntary interview (Ex has accused me of assaulting daughter twice before). My partner and I attended the interview and we are informed that police will have to obtain statements from all family members who saw my daughter over weekend. Now this process has been complete and a medical report from doctors obtained (report stated bruising could not be self-inflicted) the police have requested my partner and I attend a second voluntary interview.
My question is, are the police simply going to go over that weekend again and see if my partner or I contradict ourselves? Or are they planning on arresting us then and there?
Also, it doesn't appear to have entered their mind that it took 3 days for my ex to report these bruises and the bruises they are questioning, are not in the place where my daughter bruised herself, nor are the on the same side of her face.
Naturally I am very anxious about this interview. My partner is also disabled and all this stress is really making her unwell.
That's impossible to answer, I would be surprised if charges are made as it's very difficult to prove where and when bruising may have happened.
It is likely to have a bearing on contact though and if you are going through court it will become a part of the court investigations I would have thought.
Hi There,
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I think as Mojo says it's very difficult too say which angle the police will take, I think children injure themselves when they are young and the sensible thing to do would be to accept that, but the police have to investigate when they are given a complaint, I would just go along and go over what has been said already, you can't predict what might happen as it will be down to what oppinion the police have I guess.
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Also you might want to remove your avatar image and your daughters name from your posts as if your ex stumbles accross the site this could cause you further issues.
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GTTS
Just an update.
Police have gathered all evidence and submitted it to CPS. However, it has been with them for nearly a month now. My solicitor has said, he doesn't think there will be any charges bought as the evidence can't say who/when the injuries occurred.
Court (for 50/50) custody has been pushed back until this investigaton is over. 50/50 custody feels like a long way off at the moment.
I have not seen my daughter in over 3 months. All the stress is having a massive impact on family/friends. The courts have rejected my request for supervised contact at a contact centre (despite social services agreeing to this). I have done everything the courts, social services etc. have asked and I feel like I'm still being treated like a criminal.
Positive thoughts/vibes would be very welcome indeed.
sorry for the rant!
No problem about ranting on here, it's good place to let off steam. what does your solicitor say about the lack of contact order - I'm surprised they wouldn't allow supervised contact, the supervision is the whole point about this, in that they can keep an eye out to make sure there isn't a problem
I agree with actd... I can't see why they didn't grant supervised contact at a centre, especially as Social Services agreed with it! You just can't fathom them sometimes and I feel a rant is well in order!
Hope you can get things back on track at the next hearing.
All the best
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