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Hi, hoping someone can advise regarding this topic.
My son who lives with his mum (I am a non-resident parent) has been having some attendance issues lately, and it's reaching the point where the local authority are threatening fines.
The ex insists that we would both be liable for these fines if sanctioned, but is that the case as as he doesn't live with me?
I couldn't find anything on the web on this topic, so any advice would be much appreciated.
I would have a word with the local authority directly about this to see what their stance is, and what actions you can take to assist them in improving his attendance. If you are seend to be working with them, I would hope that they wouldn't fine you, but more importantly, there may be a plan that can be implemented to improve the situation and avoid the fines completely.
Hi,
It would make sense for your ex to be responsible for paying those fines because she is primary carer for child, and absences are happening when child is in her care. Keep a record of all this incase in future you go to court.
If fines are posted to you, you can challenge it and contact local authority about it.
My partner got sent a fine from school re: attendance. Due to her taking them on hols without permission.
He simply emailed the school saying he was not the resident parent. Had not made that decision and in fact disagreed with the desicion to take them out of school for holiday himself.
He didn't have to pay it.
The main problem here is why your son is missing school as this is going to have an impact on his education and future learning. It doesn't sound as though the problem is caused by her taking him on holiday so you need to do some investigation to see what the real problem is. Can she not get him there on time/is he being bullied etc. Can you speak to the school and try to get to the bottom of it?
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