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My ex partner run off with another woman to start a relationship.
This new partner of hers has mental health issues and at the fact finding the judge said that this new partner is or could be dangerous to be around children.
I'm not leaving this for someone else to check out in case they don't bother, so trying to do it myself.
Was told to go local police station which I did, they told me to use their website which in turn told me to go to local police station! ( they are basically useless)
Spoke to the incompetent social worker the other day, who told me both Sarah and Claires law apply to men only! I'm banging my head against a brick wall and wondering if someone has experience or can point me in the right direction as in what to do next.
Seperate subject..
At fact finding, it was proven my children were victims of abuse. I was trying to tell/scream at people what was going on and they just went with the ex's lies and cover story's.
Social worker at local authority,actually lost my children. She is on social media at the time tweeting about dancing around the office,watching films and taking naps at work and being not bothered to do any work after the nap.
Trying to hold these people accountable but having to do it alone..what sort of solicitor/lawyer would I need to help me do this and would it involve spending money I haven't got?
There is no way as a father that I can let this drop..any advice would be much appreciated.
See my other post re Claires and Sarah's law.
Could you provide some background? How old are the kids? When you say victims of abuse, who from, the new partner? What are the current contact agreements? What was agreed at court by the judge?
Do you already have contact in place?
Have you taken any legal advice to date and if so what has been the advice in relation to the situation?
16 year old with me, 13,11,9 and 8 year olds with the ex.
Parental alienation proven (that's abuse) as well as emotional harm/abuse against the 16 year old with me (full siblings)
Alienation was perpetrated by the ex,new partner and the grandparents.
Been in contact center 10 months seeing them for 3 hours every fortnight. Cafcass want this to stop and increase contact,especially as no findings made against me but ex refusing to accept recommendations,so back up for another hearing in two weeks.
Been getting advice for the family courts,child arrangement orders but next to none for how to hold local authority and particular individual accountable for their failings..I tried to tell them what was going but ignored me, kids went on to miss 5 months of school and untold medical appointments and two of them put on huge amounts of weight in a short period.
@macmyers that's terrible. I would say to focus on sorting the child contact first so you are not distracted and make sure all goes to plan. Then gather your thoughts and all evidence after a period of time, then contact your MP with a clear structured schedule of events to go through things and seek some further guidance and then you may need to look at the ombudsman route that covers Cafcass and potentially legal advice factoring in any costs etc which could be significant.
Cafcass are inspected by Ofsted and the Parliamentary and Health Service Ombudsman.
Social Work England regulates Social Workers in general and Ofsted also inspect children's social workers.
Again you MP may be able to direct and advise accordingly.
All the best.
Hello All
Really hope you are getting the support you need @Macmyers.
Just dropping in to say, if any child is in immediate danger, that is a police matter in an emergency you should call 999. If there is no immediate danger use 101. Trusted people, perhaps teachers or your GP will be there to help you. Do talk with them and ask for support and advice.
You can also google Children's Services 'Single Point of Access' and explain your concerns to them.
Thanks
Nell
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