[Solved] Same situation but I am the mother

I would say you and the dad need to talk as the childs needs come first and come to an agreement and obviously have the child there with you both as we all know we have to listen to our kids hope this helps.

Hi there

Don't worry, we have quite a few female members on the forum and you're welcome here.

I agree with the last post, you should talk to her father about how she's feeling and about the bullying, this really does need to be addressed with the school ASAP. It's best if you can work together on this and try and find a solution as a family. That could be your daughter spending more time with you to see if things settle for her.

If you get the bullying situation resolved she may settle back down, it would be a pity to separate her from her younger sibling, it's not something the courts would be happy to order and there would need to be a very good reason for them to do so....that's another reason that finding a solution between yourselves is the best way forward.

All the best

Hi There,
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I agree with Mojo, if you can sort out the bullying then she may not want to move schools, as already said I would speak with the father and also his partner if you get on well enough with them both and just discuss options.
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GTTS

Whilst I don't necessarily disagree with the advice given so far, I would do things slightly differently.

The priority is to deal with the bullying.

I wouldn't be having family conferences just yet about where your daughter lives and even when you do, probably best for the adults to speak at length first.

Bullying is a mammoth issue for children, it can warp their perspective, taint their views and have a direct affect on their own behaviour. Hence my suggestion that this is dealt with first and foremost.

When she is safe and happy again, you can look at where she lives and how that should work.

I've been a father for over thirty years now. I have six children ranging from 3 year old twins to two 31 year old sons, a 28 year old daughter and another 23 year old son. I've experienced bullying, I am experiencing co-parenting as a separated family right now. My advice is based upon my own experience.

Sorry justdad but I did advise the OP that the school be contacted asap to address the bullying. I too have parenting and grandparenting experience and skills going back 40 years!

It's better to tackle the school with the father, that's why I suggested she speak to him about it and take action asap, myy feeling is that addressing the bullying would see the situation with living arrangements improve.