[Solved] Same Sex Parents

Hi there

I'm sorry but I have no experience of your situation...regardless of that, I'm afraid you haven't supplied enough information for me to give a reasoned response..... from similar cases that have had publicity, it does seem that the biological aspect of any access/custody case is stronger.

Courts will act in the child's best interests and if any party involved has a close, loving bond and has been in the child's life consistently over a long period this will be taken into account.

It's extremely difficult to predict outcomes, even with more common dilemmas that are presented at court. If you have a fair and thorough judge then the decisions they reach will be seriously considered in the best interests of the child involved.

Best of luck

I was in a similar situation - go to Alternative Family Law and check the flowchart on Legal Paternity after sperm donation. That will give you a good starting point.

If you can demonstrate historical commitment to the child - you won't have a problem in the courts...

Sadly, for situation like ours - fathers often become superfluous after the child is born...

However, family courts recognise that it is a child right to have contact with his paternal family so you will get contact.

Good luck

Hi sorry for such a long delay we've been trying to sort out our situation with a solicitor since May and it hasn't really got us anywhere. She has been writing letters to our child's mothers and giving them two weeks to reply, each time they've failed to do this. The last letter was sent out three weeks ago and they said they were seeking legal action. This is probably just another delay tactic, but we seriously want to push this forward and get it to court now as we haven;t seen her since February.

Just a bit more info: We helped this couple have a baby through sperm donation, expecting that to be it, we helped them the baby was theirs, but when the baby was 10 months they asked us to be a part of her life. When we met her we fell in love with her and they wanted her to have two Dads, as well as her two mothers. My partner is the biological Dad, but is not on the birth certificate. There was a DNA test done and he was proven to be the Dad. We have had complications over the two years since and when we did something they didnt like they would stop us seeing her, despite messages saying they would never do this. The final straw was when we decided to have a baby with someone else and they werent happy about it at first, but they then came around even getting us gifts for the baby. Our son was born in February and since he was born they have not let us see our daughter. We messaged all ways trying to see if they were bringing her as usual, but this never happened so we got in touch with a mediator, we did our part, but were then told mediation was not possible after they went to their meeting. We got in touch with a solicitor straight away and this has then being on going since then. It is nearly 8 months since weve seen our daughter now. They have also phoned the police about social media posts aimed at them, but they are guilty of the same. The police officer even told us we cant put photos of our daughter on Facebook, which Im not sure is right and was disgusted at.

So yeah thats the bigger picture and I was just looking for advice on how to go forward from here, or chat with people in similar situations to just help us get through this horrible time really.

Thanks.

Hi

lay off social media if you're going to court, judge's don't like it, its become a bone of contention in many cases in recent years.

I would focus on making a C100 application with both of you listed as the applicants and both of the mothers listed as the respondents.

Unfortunately, your mediation will have to be attempted again as they have to sign off the C100 before you can make an application to the court and this has a 4 month expiration date.

Contact would be likely to get re-established, if the mothers wouldn't be willing to supervise a reintroduction, you would need to consider looking into a contact centre as a stepping stone to unsupervised given the period of no contact.

You can either self rep, get a solicitor or consider a McKenzie Friend. It might also be worth attending a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area.